做互惠一年多，跟孩兒吵吵鬧鬧也有大半年的時(shí)間?；径际歉钚〉哪型迌撼常瑐z姑娘都可以輕聲細(xì)語(yǔ)好好說(shuō)，最多哭一下，給她們空間冷靜下來(lái)就好。最小的就不行，非得扯著能掀掉屋頂?shù)纳らT(mén)兒大鬧一場(chǎng)不可。今晚就是這樣。
背景：周三，中文輔導(dǎo)日。慣例是，輔導(dǎo)結(jié)束，爸爸帶著去買(mǎi)糖、冰淇淋之類(lèi)作為獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)。爸爸中國(guó)出差中，媽媽沒(méi)下班。輔導(dǎo)結(jié)束，吃了晚飯，男娃兒（J）找二妞（M）商量要顆糖吃——二妞是全家最留的住零食的，同等數(shù)量的糖，她絕對(duì)是最后一個(gè)并且是很久以后吃完的，大家都會(huì)時(shí)不時(shí)找她。二妞也大方，每次都會(huì)給。但是今天因?yàn)樽约鹤钕矚g的糖也不多了，拿出一顆彩虹糖給弟弟，結(jié)果男娃兒嫌少，給扔了回去。由此，吵架開(kāi)始。（我一直在旁邊整理衣服）
地點(diǎn)：家里，孩兒房間。
從扔回糖開(kāi)始。
M：Fine!?
拿起那顆糖放自己嘴里了。
J（開(kāi)始哭）：I have nothing！
我：I'm here the whole time，I was watching. You didn’t want that candy and threw it away. Those candies belong to your sister, if don’t want that one, then nothing, you’re right.
J: But it’s too little!
我：If you don’t want it, then nothing. Your choice.
J(拍床崩潰中)：Noooooo!
起身去拿二妞放糖的盒子。二妞眼疾手快，緊緊護(hù)住了自己的寶貝。男娃兒徹底崩潰。
J：It’s unfair! I did my Chinese, I always got something as a reward after Chinese!
我：But daddy is not home now, I have nothing right now. What about tomorrow? Tomorrow I’ll give you the reward, I promise!
J(臉通紅，兩掛淚水，頭發(fā)都要豎起來(lái)了。持續(xù)拍床中）: NOOOOO! You won’t! I want it now!!!!
以上對(duì)話(huà)重復(fù)了好幾遍。我煩了。
我: Then what do you want? I told you daddy is not home now, I have nothing, the candies belong to your sister. If she gave it to you, just....accepted it. (忘詞，想不起該用哪個(gè)動(dòng)詞，二妞一旁提醒，take it。我回了句，TY。又繼續(xù)）But what did you do? You threw it away!? Now you do have nothing!
J(憤怒到了極點(diǎn)，開(kāi)始歇斯底里）：You said that thousands time!!!
我（一臉懵逼狀）：what???
J（繼續(xù)歇斯底里）: I know they are M’s! I just want one!
我：Then you need to talk with M! You need to be polite! They are not yours.
J(徹底瘋了): Get out of our room!!!!!
我震驚了，這是他這么久以來(lái)，第一次這樣跟我喊。
我（確認(rèn)臉）：What did you say?!
J(看出來(lái)我變了臉，聲音低了一點(diǎn)): I don’t want to talk now!
我：OK! I’ll give you your space, stay in your room, I’ll be outside. When you want to talk, open the door and come to me.
J(依舊生氣臉): OK！??！
至此就這樣吵完了。
五分鐘后，我去敲門(mén)，問(wèn)我能進(jìn)去嗎。他回答，好。
就這樣，吵五分鐘，冷靜五分鐘，徹底結(jié)束。
好尷尬的是，跟小孩子吵架竟然忘詞，差點(diǎn)被自己逗樂(lè)。不然，還怎么吵下去。
