Day3? 進(jìn)度：p29/164

1. It’s my belief that we never we do anything for one another I love that kind of energy everybody losses. When we receive something given all of that kind of energy we know we are going to have to pay for it because it was done at the other person‘s expense. I’m interested in a process in which we give to each other from the heart

感受：

用非暴力方式溝通 可以讓人感受到是真心跟他人鏈接。不要用“應(yīng)該”“必須”這些詞，向?qū)Ψ教嵋?，而是看到?duì)方的需求是什么？因?yàn)槿绻挥眠@些批判的方式溝通，就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)當(dāng)你給予理解，就感覺(jué)收獲同樣的理解和真心。

2.I like you to tell me why you feel as you do in terms for your needs.? I feel as I do because I would have like …or because I was wanting wishing or hoping for…

write down your unmet needs in that format

表達(dá)的萬(wàn)能公式，主要是表達(dá)感受和自己未被滿足的需求。

3.However if the other person speak a judging language, then we need to put on ’NVC’ ear.

感受：如果對(duì)方說(shuō)出批判性的語(yǔ)言，我們可以轉(zhuǎn)換成非暴力溝通方式接收信息。如果對(duì)方說(shuō)你的問(wèn)題是什么，我們應(yīng)該聽到背后他的需求是什么，他真的想要什么。我們可以跳過(guò)他表達(dá)的指責(zé)和批判，而是試著聽到他背后沒(méi)有滿足的需求是什么。