Reading Journal - The Subtle Art of Not Giving? a F*ck

20180115-16? Chapter 1 Don't Try?

-Q & A-

001? What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove?

It tries to prove that it's what we are rather than what we want to be that makes us? successful. Even though we might seem to be a failiure sometimes, we should be comfortable with ourselves.

002? What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack??

The conventional life advice, which focuses on urging you to persue what you want (or sometimes what you think you want because other people think it's good and you just want to prove that you are better than them), always reminds you of what you lack, like your personal shortcomings and failures.?

003? Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?

Feedback Loop from Hell is a situation where you become negative towards yourselves once you realize you are or likely to be in a bad mood, including being angry, worried, upset and so on. What's worse, your negative attitudes towards yourselves upset you more than the negative feelings themselves.

004? What are the subtleties of not giving a fuck?

1. To be comfortable with being different rather than to be indifferent.

2. To give a f*ck about more important things rather than adversity itself.

3. To learn to only give a f*ck about what's truly f*ck-worthy.

005 What’s wrong with being “perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times”? Can you think of an example to support your answer?

Being?“perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times” will? weaken your endurance of adversity and negative feelings.

Take students' attitudes towards words-memorizing in English-learning as an example. If they entitle themselves to a rather easy approach to memorizing words, not recognizing the necessity and significance of repetition in words-memorizing, they will regard the jod a kind of suffering so that it's gradually impossible for them to put up with the process.?

-Take-away Message-

001 社會環(huán)境和和我們個人的心理素質導致我們一直關注那些我們沒有的東西，覺得生活必須要擁有了這些大眾眼中標志著成功的東西才算成功，并且由于社交媒體的普及，看起來周圍的人都過著幸福的生活，這讓我們更加無法忍受自己的負面情緒，陷入Feedback Loop from Hell 。

002 個人覺得Not Giving a Fuck 這標題定得稍微有點不合適，因為作者想告訴我們的不是真正的目空一切，到indifferent這個程度，而是拋開那些無聊的瑣事，關注那些真正值得我們關注的東西，而不是那些別人覺得我們應該關注的東西。

-Words & Expressions-

001 warts and all (informal)

原句:? We accept it,?warts and all.

釋義： including all the faults or unpleasant things

造句：Why not just put these warts and all aside?

002 screw （熟詞生義）

原句1: My mother was recently screwed out of a large chunk of money by a close friend of hers.

釋義： v. to cheat someone in order to get money from them

用法： screw somebody for something

造句：The evil-minded tour guide screwed the visitors for more than 1000 RMB.

原句2: I was pissed off. I said, " No, screw that, Mom. We're going to lawyer the fuck up and go after this asshole. Why? Because I don't give a fuck. I will ruin this guy's life if I have to."

003 cave in?

原句: They imagine and aspire to be a person who is shaken by nothing and caves in to no one.

釋義：to finally stop opposing something, especially because someone has persuaded or threatend you

造句：The president is expected to cave in to pressure from the media's critisim.

004 weather （熟詞生義）

原句: When most people envision giving no fucks whatsoever, they imagine a kind of serene indifference to everything, a calm that weathers all storms.

釋義： v. to come through a very difficult situation safely

造句：It's lucky that the country finally weathered the sandstorm.

005 slight（熟詞生義）

原句: You will see every challenge as a faliure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal.

釋義： n.?輕蔑,忽視,冷落

造句：The chairman regarded the quarrel as a slight to his authority.

006 Chances are...

原句: Chances are you've engaged in it more than a few times.

釋義： It is likely that ...

造句：Chances are we can't make it if we don't hurry up.