1. 我們要不要孩子？如果要，主要由誰(shuí)來(lái)負(fù)責(zé)？
2. 我們的家庭賺錢(qián)能力及目標(biāo)是什么？消費(fèi)觀及儲(chǔ)蓄觀會(huì)不會(huì)發(fā)生沖突？
3. 我們的家庭如何維持？由誰(shuí)來(lái)掌握可能出現(xiàn)的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)?
4. 我們有沒(méi)有詳盡地交換過(guò)雙方的疾病史？包括精神上的.
5. 我們父母的態(tài)度有沒(méi)有達(dá)到我們的預(yù)期？會(huì)不會(huì)給足夠的祝福？
6. 我們有沒(méi)有自然、坦誠(chéng)地說(shuō)出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐懼？
7. 臥室能放電視機(jī)嗎？
8. 我們真的能傾聽(tīng)對(duì)方訴說(shuō)，并公平對(duì)待對(duì)方的想法和抱怨嗎？
9. 我們清晰地了解對(duì)方的精神需求及信仰嗎？我們討論過(guò)孩子將來(lái)的信仰問(wèn)題嗎？
10. 我們喜歡并尊重對(duì)方的朋友嗎？
11. 我們能不能看重并尊敬對(duì)方的父母？我們有沒(méi)考慮到父母可能會(huì)干涉我們的關(guān)系？
12. 我的家庭最讓你心煩的事情是什么？
13. 我們永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)因?yàn)榛橐龇艞壍臇|西是什么？
14. 如果我們中的一人需要離開(kāi)其家族所在地陪同另一個(gè)人到外地工作，做得到嗎？
15. 我們是不是充滿信心面對(duì)任何挑戰(zhàn)使婚姻一直往前走？
原文：
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other
critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that
couples should consider asking:
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
