最近在刷抖音的時候，看到一個關(guān)于老師的短視頻，場景是教室門口，有一名學(xué)生在門口罰站，一群記者正在采訪那名老師。一名記者問到：“請問，上課時間，你讓一個十一二歲的小姑娘站在教室外面，這不算體罰嗎？”那名老師回答道：“你這話什么意思（這時，老師猛地奪過話筒，正臉面對著鏡頭），現(xiàn)在的學(xué)生，是打不得、罵不得也批評不得。學(xué)生犯錯誤，老師也不敢批評，為什么呢？還搞什么賞識教育，拼命的夸學(xué)生，就是因為你們這些媒體，在給他們撐腰，老師打?qū)W生，你們就像蒼蠅聞到臭肉迫不及待地?fù)渖先?，恨不得把老師都整進(jìn)監(jiān)獄里去，反過來呢，學(xué)生打老師你們管過嗎？你們到底想讓我么老師怎么做？看著學(xué)生犯錯誤，我們不聞不問，讓我們看著他們，一步一步走向深淵，我們可以這樣做嗎？但是，我們是老師，我們的良心不允許我們這樣做。”看完之后，我感觸頗深，視頻中老師的慷慨激昂讓我聯(lián)想到很多，當(dāng)然，無論如何，我們都不能體罰學(xué)生，這是一個底線。但是，我們老師也不能因噎廢食從而對于學(xué)生的問題不管不顧。學(xué)生出現(xiàn)了問題，我們要正確看待，并且要學(xué)會用正確的方式去處理。我們不能為了解決問題而解決問題。就像找校長提到的，我們要有結(jié)構(gòu)化思維，通過孩子犯的錯誤，我們?nèi)グl(fā)現(xiàn)他的背后家庭教育的問題、人際交往的問題以及個人性格習(xí)慣的問題等等。找到問題的根源然后對癥下藥，有時候我們需要批評學(xué)生，有時候需要引導(dǎo)孩子通過努力老彌補(bǔ)自己的錯誤，甚至有時候我們還要引導(dǎo)孩子立下承諾。我們要告訴孩子老師相信他，但是我們絕對不能天真的認(rèn)為一次教育技能改變這個孩子，教育是個慢的藝術(shù)，孩子的問題也容易反復(fù)，老師需要的是足夠的耐心。讓孩子的每次一錯誤都成為我們教育的機(jī)會。

教育從來都不只有溫暖和呵護(hù)，有時候更多的是磨練和督促，尤其是在全面杜絕體罰的大環(huán)境下，老師們各個投鼠忌器，教育更需要點狼性和血性。在這里分享一篇演講文章：'I Wish You Bad Luck.' Read Supreme Court Justice John Roberts' Unconventional Speech to His Son's Graduating Class.

Congratulations, class of 2017. You’ve reached an important milestone. An important stage of your life is behind you. I’m sorry to be the one to tell you it is the easiest stage of your life, but it is in the books. While you’ve been at Cardigan, you have all been a part of an important international community as well. And I think that needs to be particularly recognized.[Roberts gave brief remarks in other languages.]Now around the country today at colleges, high schools, middle schools, commencement speakers are standing before impatient graduates. And they are almost always saying the same things. They will say that today is a commencement exercise. ‘It is a beginning, not an end. You should look forward.’ And I think that is true enough, however, I think if you’re going to look forward to figure out where you’re going, it’s good to know where you’ve been and to look back as well. And I think if you look back to your first afternoon here at Cardigan, perhaps you will recall that you were lonely. Perhaps you will recall that you were a little scared, a little anxious. And now look at you. You are surrounded by friends that you call brothers, and you are confident in facing the next step in your education.It is worth trying to think why that is so. And when you do, I think you may appreciate that it was because of the support of your classmates in the classroom, on the athletic field and in the dorms. And as far as the confidence goes, I think you will appreciate that it is not because you succeeded at everything you did, but because with the help of your friends, you were not afraid to fail. And if you did fail, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, it might be time to think about doing something else. But it was not just success, but not being afraid to fail that brought you to this point.Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why. From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give grand advice, and they give some useful tips. The most common grand advice they give is for you to be yourself. It is an odd piece of advice to give people dressed identically, but you should — you should be yourself. But you should understand what that means. Unless you are perfect, it does not mean don’t make any changes. In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You should try to become something better. People say ‘be yourself’ because they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be. But you can’t be yourself if you don't learn who are, and you can’t learn who you are unless you think about it.

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文章大體意思是：通常的畢業(yè)典禮上，演講者們會不吝最美好的祝福，希望你們能有好運。我可不會那么做。為什么呢？請君為我傾耳聽。將來的年復(fù)一年中，我希望你能遭遇不公平的對待，那樣你才會知道公正的價值。我希望你會遭遇背叛，它能讓你懂得忠誠的重要性。抱歉，但我還是希望你會被孤獨所侵，這樣你才不會認(rèn)為友情來得理所當(dāng)然。我再次希望你時不時會走點霉運，那樣你才會意識到機(jī)遇在生活中的角色，才能了解你的成功并不是命里注定的，而別人的失敗也不是理當(dāng)如此。當(dāng)你經(jīng)歷一次次的失敗，我希望你的對手會因你的失敗而歡呼，只有這樣才能讓你知道競技精神的重要性。我希望你遭遇過被輕視，那樣才會懂得傾聽他人。我期望你能遭遇足夠的傷痛來學(xué)會同情與憐憫。無論我是否這樣期望，那些不幸終究會發(fā)生。但是否應(yīng)驗了吃虧是福，則取決于你從不幸中總結(jié)經(jīng)驗的能力?？赐赀@個演講之后，我決定要讓孩子們看一下，就像是老人們說的那樣：“吃虧是福。”當(dāng)你遇到問題的時候，當(dāng)你遇到挫折的時候，當(dāng)你和同學(xué)發(fā)生矛盾的時候，當(dāng)你被學(xué)習(xí)的壓力壓垮的時候，當(dāng)你面對著遙不可及的夢想而哭泣的時候，你才知道會什么是成長。趙校長也說過：“深刻的教育來自于深刻的體驗?！?/p>

如果你是一名老師，那么請你做一只披著狼皮的羊：在內(nèi)心，你有羊的善良，羊的溫柔，羊的細(xì)膩，羊的慈祥；而外在，你有狼的兇猛、狼的堅韌，狼的血性，狼的野心。