一、Message from Balray Arunasalam
頭馬小伙伴一定知道2014年國(guó)際演講比賽冠軍Dananjaya Hettiarachchi的那句名言吧“I see something in you”。原！來(lái)！這句話就是前任全球主席Balraj Arunasalam, DTM（2017-2018）2003年在斯里蘭卡推廣頭馬俱樂部時(shí)，見到Dananjaya對(duì)他說(shuō)的原話?！癐 see something in you…but I don’t know what it is”。
在一個(gè)追求快的世界，“have faith in someone is a rare act, but it can be life-changing. Inside each of us is?a unique quality, a hidden talent.?I see something in you, I feel?something for you, and I know what it is! It is your?true potential! Cultivate it, and let it shine.”
下次例會(huì)見到熟悉抑或陌生的人，你會(huì)用新的眼光看他嗎？Maybe you will see?something?in them!
二、Member Story- A teacher of hope
又是一位令人尊重的全球主席-Robert “Bob” Barnhill, DTM , AS(1996-1997)。他是德克薩斯理工大學(xué)的法學(xué)博士并留校任教。1983年加入頭馬俱樂部，并在參與頭馬的過(guò)程中獲得了對(duì)教學(xué)與做導(dǎo)師的很大幫助。即使在他生病的時(shí)候，也沒有錯(cuò)過(guò)頭馬的任何機(jī)會(huì)，他甚至和同為DTM的妻子Jana從德州開車到溫哥華參加國(guó)際峰會(huì)。
我們來(lái)看看他分享的精彩內(nèi)容：
※?Each of us has a special?gift?to share with the world; however, most people fail to let their song be heard.
※?As mentors you open doors; it’s up to the?mentee?to walk through the door.（面條注意了~）
※?We must be tenacious in our quest to make?leadership?development as much a part of Toastmasters as communication training is today.
2013年采訪Robert時(shí)，他說(shuō)自己最想被人銘記為“a teacher of hope”. “…gave me the ability to believe that tomorrow can be a better day, and not to quit, not to give up…and because of that, I have a?light.”
三、Public Speaking Skills
1. Want to be funny??
→ How do you learn “funny”? 喜劇技能和任何其他技能一樣是可以練習(xí)和提高的。其實(shí)最平凡最日常的生活經(jīng)歷中有很多可挖掘的點(diǎn)。做個(gè)有心人，多思考，多琢磨，多聯(lián)想，是時(shí)候拿個(gè)小本本記錄點(diǎn)滴了。（有沒有人想起美劇中了不起的麥瑟爾夫人啊）
→ Study the sources. 學(xué)習(xí)別人的幽默演講、喜劇表演等。將他們的笑點(diǎn)記下來(lái)反復(fù)斟酌，研習(xí)其結(jié)構(gòu)。巧妙使用幽默能夠讓你敏銳的看到一些機(jī)會(huì)去shatter expectations and create surprise!
→ Learn the laughter triggers. 什么能撥動(dòng)人心理的笑點(diǎn)呢？用驚喜、尷尬、觀眾優(yōu)越感、認(rèn)同、失調(diào)、釋放。由于篇幅問(wèn)題這里只說(shuō)明一個(gè)，失調(diào)，incongruity。失調(diào)指的是把一類東西的特點(diǎn)強(qiáng)加到另外一類身上。比如讓動(dòng)物說(shuō)話~其他的大家看雜志13頁(yè)吧~
→ Make them laugh and remember. 記住演講的主要目標(biāo)還是deliver a memorable message clearly and effectively. 而幽默的作用就是找到那么開心一刻，順勢(shì)傳播你的信息。
2.Ten tips for introducing your speech globally
如果有一天你不是在西安而是在世界其他角落，聽眾也不再是自己的同胞，而是有著不同文化習(xí)俗的外國(guó)人，我們演講前該注意些什么呢？不同地方的人對(duì)成功的演講可能有著不同的看法哦~聽聽Dean Foster在全球100多個(gè)國(guó)家30多年的演講經(jīng)驗(yàn)總結(jié)：how can you get started on the right (cultural) foot?
10) Great beginnings depend on?what you?want to achieve.
你的演講是inspirational, instructive, entertaining or providing cutting-edge information? 不同的目的意味運(yùn)用不同的方法deliver.比如在德國(guó)做技術(shù)類演講，不宜使用太多fun facts, 因?yàn)榈聡?guó)人在職業(yè)專業(yè)領(lǐng)域向來(lái)嚴(yán)肅。
9) Show who you are from the start.?
不論是在偏好輕松隨意還是正式嚴(yán)肅的國(guó)家介紹自己，It’s important to review who you are with?humility.謙虛，即使為了建立權(quán)威性，也要表明是為了更好的服務(wù)觀眾。
8) Demonstrate your admiration of their culture. Endear yourself as an admirer of the country’s achievements.
7) Consider the language trap.
別以為別的國(guó)家聽眾英語(yǔ)水平都很好。說(shuō)話時(shí)還是省略掉多音節(jié)詞和縮略語(yǔ)吧。聽眾聽不懂語(yǔ)言，演講的信息就無(wú)法傳遞。
6) Meet with your translator. 如果需要翻譯，提前與譯者溝通好，同聲翻譯最佳。
5)?Watch your nonverbal message.
上臺(tái)的前10秒大家已經(jīng)對(duì)演講者有所評(píng)判了。手勢(shì)，笑容，面部表情，站位綜合體現(xiàn)了臺(tái)上的演講人會(huì)不會(huì)被臺(tái)下的觀眾接受。
4)?Your introduction also indicates the way you think.
有的文化喜歡有清晰邏輯，事實(shí)充分的講話；有的文化則偏愛結(jié)論再先，故事再后的結(jié)構(gòu)。演講前要多了解這些差異。
3)?Master the technology.
圖片，演示文稿等技術(shù)道具要準(zhǔn)備好。此外，展示的東西也要考慮聽眾文化中更習(xí)慣的方式。如東亞人更愛文字而不是字母來(lái)展示一種概念。Also keep all the images culturally neutral, or at least culturallysensitive.
2) Have a game plan for cultural “damage control”.
萬(wàn)一說(shuō)了一些culturally offensive stuff, 承認(rèn)自己無(wú)知犯的錯(cuò)誤并感謝觀眾讓你了解更多。
1) Be humble.
最后也是最重要的是humility and gratitude. 觀眾不僅是在評(píng)判你，也在評(píng)判你的祖國(guó)和你代表的一切—從你登臺(tái)的那一刻起。
3. Create Culture of Candor-communication skills
夸獎(jiǎng)的話語(yǔ)大家都很樂于聽，但是忠言逆耳利于行。那萬(wàn)一有IE坦白了你的不足呢？怎么鼓勵(lì)并優(yōu)雅地接受candid individual feedback?本文的作者 Kelth Ferrazzl可是2018年頭馬金錘獎(jiǎng)（Golden Gavel）的獲得者鴨。
☆?Give clear permission?確定你的IE feel safe being candid with you?
☆?Watch your emotions 如果聽到unexpected feedback, try not to be defensive or upset
☆ Be generous and strive for greater connectedness告訴IE為什么看重他的坦誠(chéng)的觀點(diǎn)。
☆?Say “thank you”.不管是什么樣的反饋，別忘了說(shuō)謝謝。下次可以告訴TA自己如何有效地使用了TA的反饋。
☆?Make it a habit. It is a skill that few have the courage to practice, but it’s a crucial practice to master if you hope to?take?advantage of valuable mentors in your life. Ture collaboration is impossible when people don’t trust one another to speak with candor. It takes work to create a candid environment supported by respectful, honest relationships, but it’s a challenge every leader should embrace.
四、Toastmasters Enlightens Our Life
1. Decluttering homes and lives
看到declutter這個(gè)詞，一度改成了微信簽名，太貼切了，不就是斷舍離么！清理掉雜亂的物品。專業(yè)人士走近顧客的家里，就能根據(jù)她所看到的空間判斷這個(gè)人的問(wèn)題所在。
A clear space acts as a powerful launch pad for every area of our lives. “First you need to gain?clarity?of what is in the space, then you can reflect on how these items?align with your vision?for the space and your daily life. ”怎樣成為自己時(shí)間和空間的主人？作者M(jìn)issy
Sheehan給出了“十部曲”和“四階段”，感興趣的小伙伴請(qǐng)?jiān)谠陌l(fā)現(xiàn)吧。但愿我們的演講和生活都變得well-organized.
2. How to disagree diplomatically?
工作中遇到不同意見？怎么有效又不失優(yōu)雅的表達(dá)不同意呢？Check it out.
□?depersonalize 把問(wèn)題和人分開對(duì)待。在工作上有分歧時(shí)，要理解：和你持不同意見的人不是對(duì)手，只是同事。Depersonalizing a decision can enable you to?remove the “win”?from the equation and?enjoy the exchange?of ideas.
□ acknowledge and add. 話術(shù)：說(shuō)“I hadn’t thought of that. What I was thinking was…”,避免說(shuō)“yes, but…”
□?use “I agree” cautiously. 如果一開始就說(shuō)“I agree”，對(duì)方根本就不聽后面的but了哈哈。把“I agree”放在中間。例如可以這樣：“On the point you just made, I’m in complete agreement. On this point my perspective is…”。Your opinions are best delivered in a way that make people?feel constructive, not judgmental.
后記
令人感動(dòng)的會(huì)員故事，令人激動(dòng)的會(huì)員成就，令人頓悟的演講技巧。開卷有益，歡迎分享你的感悟。
https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine
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“READ and SHARE Toastmaster Magazine”是19-20年度D88大區(qū)的LEAD (Leadership Experience for Advanced Development)項(xiàng)目之一。本活動(dòng)旨在通過(guò)閱讀和分享頭馬雜志內(nèi)容，更加了解頭馬國(guó)際發(fā)展、認(rèn)識(shí)全球優(yōu)秀頭馬伙伴，學(xué)習(xí)演講和領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力，達(dá)到更好的個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)并宣傳頭馬帶來(lái)的好處。
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Karen QUAN, IP2
VPE of Xi'an Hi-Tech TMC (19.7-20.6)
