WHAT IS DISCIPLINE?

Discipline primarily relates to instruction, education, and correction. It is never connected with abuse or cruelty.

LOVING DISCIPLINE

Granted, it is not possible for parents to have fully perfect example of self-control. Sometimes your patience will be stretched to the limit, but during the particularly difficult times, always remember that anger-based punishment is usually oppressive, excessive, and counterproductive. Furthermore, punishment motivated by anger or frustration is not discipline at all. It is simply a loss of self-control.

On the other hand, when you discipline with love and self-control, you are likely to get better results.

REASONABLE DISCIPLINE

Reasonable parents are mindful that children are not miniature adults.Tried to take into account her age and degree of maturity.”

It is vital that you be realistic in your expectations and, at the same time, not justify or condone wrong conduct or attitudes. By taking into account your child’s abilities, limitations, and other circumstances, you will ensure that your discipline is balanced and reasonable.

CONSISTENT DISCIPLINE

Children? need the security of consistent discipline. If your standards change depending on your mood, your child may become confused and frustrated.

“Let your word ‘Yes’ mean yes, your ‘No,’ no.” Those words well apply to parenting. Think carefully before giving ultimatums you have no intention of carrying out. If you warn your child that a certain form of discipline will result if he misbehaves, be sure to follow through.

Good parental communication is essential to consistent discipline. If parents disagree about how to handle a situation, it is best that they discuss those differences privately and reach a united decision.

DISCIPLINE IS ESSENTIAL

If you give your children loving, reasonable, and consistent discipline, you can be certain that your efforts will benefit your children. Your loving direction may help your children to develop into mature, responsible, and balanced adults.

應該怎樣管教孩子？

管教是什么意思

管教”不完全是懲罰的意思。這個詞主要是指“指導、教育、糾正”，絕對沒有虐待的含意。

管教兒女好比栽花種樹。栽種植物的人必須翻土、澆水、施肥，也要除蟲、除草。植物成長期間，也許還要不時修剪枝葉，免得植物長歪。要植物長得好，牽涉到的工作確實很多。類似地，養(yǎng)育兒女牽涉到很多不同方面，有時也包括施行管教。管教就像修剪枝葉，能盡早糾正孩子的錯誤傾向，防止孩子走歪路?？墒?，正如修剪植物必須有技巧，否則可能會令植物枯萎，管教兒女也必須運用適當?shù)募记?，并懷著愛心去施行?/p>

管教要以愛為本

父母不可能在表現(xiàn)自制方面做得十全十美。有時候孩子所做的事，也許令你覺得忍無可忍。但要記得，在盛怒之下懲罰孩子，很容易會罰得太重、太多，并造成反效果。再說，在盛怒下懲罰孩子其實不算管教，只是失去自制的表現(xiàn)。

相反，如果你能保持克制，而且在管教孩子時，讓孩子感受到你對他的愛，你施行的管教就會收到更好的效果。

管教要合情合理

父母有合理的態(tài)度，就會提醒自己，孩子畢竟是孩子。有一個方法可以幫助我對事情有正確的看法，不致反應過激，那就是想想自己小時候是怎么樣的?！?/p>

你對孩子的要求必須合乎現(xiàn)實，但也不要縱容錯誤的行為和態(tài)度。施行管教時，要考慮孩子的情況和能力限度。這樣，你的管教就能做到合情合理、輕重適中。

管教要說到做到

父母的管教首尾一貫，孩子才會有安全感。如果你心情好就放松標準，心情不好就管得很嚴，孩子就會感到沮喪和無所適從?！澳銈兊脑挘蔷驮撜f‘是’，不是就該說‘不是’”。如果你打算向孩子發(fā)出“最后通牒”，警告他要是繼續(xù)不聽話就會受到某種懲罰，就要在說之前先想清楚你是否真的做得到。一旦說了出來，就要說到做到。

父母之間必須有良好的溝通，管教孩子的方法才會一致。如果在某些事上，夫妻有不同的意見，最好是私下商量，設法達成共識。

管教是必須的

如果你管教孩子以愛為本，合情合理，并且說到做到，你的管教就一定會有成效。你的孩子很可能會成為一個成熟、可靠，處事平衡合理的人。