我的經(jīng)歷我不認(rèn)為是完美的,所以才想讓你擁有更完美的人生。那怎樣才算是完美呢,至少你的生活是你想要的樣子。
我相信你這樣做一定有你的道理的,只要不違法,盡管放手一搏,老爸全力支持。不用過多擔(dān)心,我也會(huì)像我爸媽對我那樣,給你做好堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的后盾。家,永遠(yuǎn)是你屹立不倒的避風(fēng)港。這樣做不為別的,只希望你這一生活得幸福、快樂。
錢真的很重要嗎?是,錢真的很重要。但如果你把賺錢放在第一位去做事的話,你多半是會(huì)失敗的?,F(xiàn)在這個(gè)時(shí)代,最不愁的就是賺錢,可以說有你多到想不到的賺錢渠道。只要你肯努力,不怕辛苦,光是在工地也能讓你活得不錯(cuò)。前提,你得先獲得快樂。不到萬不得已的時(shí)候,千萬不要把哪個(gè)行業(yè)賺錢作為你擇業(yè)的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)。
你是我的孩子,也是我最大的希望。斗膽,爸爸就拿你做個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)。爸爸希望你能收獲快樂且難忘的童年,勇敢的靠自己走出人生的每一步,找尋到自己喜歡的領(lǐng)域,研究真正感性的東西。我不想給你施加壓力,但也不是放任不管。這一路上,我會(huì)為你做好指引,聆聽你的心聲,做你一輩子最值得信賴的好朋友。
一萬小時(shí)定律中說,你對自己喜歡的事足夠付出了,即使你是個(gè)徹頭徹尾的大笨蛋也能精通它,當(dāng)然也能靠它來賺錢。我很喜歡的一位“未來導(dǎo)演”曾在他的視頻中這樣說道,永遠(yuǎn)不要讓自己的父母告訴自己,你要去做什么。也永遠(yuǎn)不要讓別人否定你,你不能去做什么。
最后,我們一起聽聽Alan Wilson Watts在一次題為What Do I Desire的演講中是怎樣說的:
What would youlike to do if money were no object? Well it’s so amazing as the result of ourkind of educational system. Crowds of students say, well, we’d like to bepainters. We’d like to be poets. We’d like to be writers. But as everybodyknows you can’t earn any money that way. When we finally got down to somethingwhich the individual says he really wants to do. I will say to him. You dothat! And forget the money! Because if you say that getting the money is themost important thing. You will spend your life completely wasting your time. Youwill be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living that is togo on doing things you don’t like doing. Which is STUPID! Better to have ashort life that is full of which you like doing than a long life spent in amiserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’treally matter what it is! You can eventually turn it…uh you could become amaster of it. It’s the only way of becoming the master of something to bereally with it. And then you will be able to get a good fee for whatever it is.But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like. Inorder to go on spending things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like andto teach our children to follow the same track. Here we are doing is we arebringing up children and educating them to live the same sort of lives we areliving. In order they may justify themselves and find satisfaction in life bybringing up their children to bring up their children to do the same thing. Soit’s all wretch and no vomit. It never gets there! And so therefore, it’s so importantto consider this question. What do I desire?
如果不考慮錢,你們想做什么?我們教育制度下的產(chǎn)物著實(shí)令人瞠目結(jié)舌。很多學(xué)生會(huì)說,我想成為畫家,我想成為詩人,我想成為作家。但是每個(gè)人都知道這些職業(yè)根本不能讓你賺到錢。當(dāng)我的學(xué)生跟我說,他真的很想做某件事時(shí),我會(huì)鼓勵(lì)他說,去做吧!別考慮錢!因?yàn)槿绻惆奄嶅X當(dāng)作最重要的事,你會(huì)終其一生,完全是在浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。為了維持生計(jì),一遍又一遍做著你所厭煩的事。這簡直太愚蠢了!人生還是短一點(diǎn)好,因?yàn)檫@樣你就會(huì)明白,與其過一種漫長無趣的痛苦生活,不如選擇短暫且充滿樂趣的人生。畢竟如果你真正愛你所做的事情,無論它是什么都不重要。最終你肯定會(huì)成為這個(gè)領(lǐng)域的大師,因?yàn)榫谀臣碌奈ㄒ煌緩奖闶悄阏嫘臒釔鬯?。然后自然而然的,你?huì)得到它給你帶來的美好價(jià)值。真正愚蠢的是,把時(shí)間白白浪費(fèi)在你不喜歡做的事情上,然后再教導(dǎo)我們的孩子循著我們的老路走。我們現(xiàn)在在做什么呢?把孩子撫養(yǎng)大,然后教育他們遵照我們選擇過的活法去活著,讓孩子們像自己一樣安穩(wěn),過千篇一律的生活來證明自己教育的正確性,并從中獲得人生的滿足感,而這是我們一代又一代人造成的,永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)停止!所以,回到最重要的問題。我想要的是什么?