2017.7.25
Habit6 Synergize
Principles of creative cooperation

Words
1.pool

So they pool those desire.

to combine your money, ideas, skills etc with those of other people so that you can all use them:
例：Investors agreed to pool their resources to develop the property.
造句：A brainstorm is that members of the group? pool all their ideas.

2.apex/?e?peks/

Middle in this sense does not mean compromise; it means higher, like the apex of the triangle.

technical the top or highest part of something pointed or curved:the apex of a pyramid
最頂端的一般都是最好的最重要的,所以還有另外兩個(gè)意思“

【 formal】 the most important position in an organization or society:
? ? 例：The king was at the apex of society.
【 formal】 the most successful part of something
? SYN? peak: 例：He was at the apex of his career.
最頂端的一般都是最好的最重要的
造句：The manager is at the apex of the team.

3.credence/?kri?d?ns/

And unless we value the differences in our perceptions, unless we value each other and give credence to the possibility that we're both right.

【formal 】the acceptance of something as true
give credence to something (=to believe or accept something as true)
例：I don’t give any credence to these rumors.

造句： I give credence to Chris' ability to sing Hiphop.

4.wrangle

Problems that have been legally and psychologically wrangled about for months have been settled in a matter of a few hours or days.

to argue with someone angrily for a long time
wrangle over/about
例：They are still wrangling over ownership of the house.
造句：The problem of disorderly parking of the shared bikes is wrangling.

5.exacerbation /?ɡ?z?s??be???n $ -s?r-/

And all that did was to exacerbate the problem because the interpersonal communication deteriorated as it went through the legal process.

to make a bad situation worse:
例： The recession has exacerbated this problem.

造句： I don’t want to exacerbate the situation

Thoughts

今天文章中兩個(gè)夫妻吵架的例子都非常典型，第一個(gè)例子，丈夫籌劃已久一家人的戶外旅行，但妻子因?yàn)槟赣H身體不太好想回去照顧。
雙方都有自己的理由，可是大家卻都不肯讓步，都覺(jué)得自己的計(jì)劃才是對(duì)的。這跟我和另一半吵架一樣，他跟我說(shuō)這種吵架沒(méi)有對(duì)錯(cuò)，而我每次都說(shuō)我是對(duì)的。所以只會(huì)越吵越兇。

然而，如果用到前面說(shuō)過(guò)的win/win、用心傾聽(tīng)，站在對(duì)方角度去理解，其實(shí)會(huì)討論出一些雙贏的選擇。比如可以去妻子的母親家，在母親家附近的地方進(jìn)行一次郊游，雖然可能沒(méi)有之前準(zhǔn)備的那么好，但都滿足了對(duì)方的需求。還是要多站在他人的角度上思考。

另外就是value differences。有不同才是創(chuàng)意的源泉。但我們通常總是怕有不同的意見(jiàn)，覺(jué)得那是被否定。相反，聽(tīng)到不同意見(jiàn)，應(yīng)該開(kāi)心，然后去想想他是怎么想到這個(gè)點(diǎn)的。因?yàn)槭澜缇褪俏宀世_紛的。