Chaptrer 7 ?末
A TIME TO WAIT, AND A TIME TO GIVE IN ? 該等待的時候，該屈服的時候
UNDER THE MICROSCOPE: ARE YOU TOO FARSIGHTED FOR YOUR OWN GOOD?
深入剖析：為了你自己好，你是不是太"高瞻遠(yuǎn)矚"了？
words and phrases
（1）farsighted ['fɑ?'sa?t?d]
adj. 有遠(yuǎn)見的；能看到遠(yuǎn)處的
同義詞：forward-looking，sagacious
反義詞：nearsightedadj ? 近視的；淺見的
原句：Kivetz calls this condition hyperopia-a fancy way of saying farsighted. Most people, as we've seen, are perpetually nearsighted.
仿寫：He is farsighted as a company's leader.
（2）hurdle ['h??d(?)l]
n. 障礙；欄；跳欄
vt. 克服
vi. 克服；跳過
過去式 hurdled，過去分詞 hurdled，現(xiàn)在分詞 hurdling
原句：I was nervous about whether I would succeed in grad school, and in my mind, getting in was just the first hurdle.我不知道自己能否在研究生階段取得成功，而且在我看來，入學(xué)是我需要跨越的第一個坎。
仿寫：They had jumpped lots of hurdles since beginning this task.
（3）settle ['set(?)l]
vi. 解決；定居；沉淀；下陷
vt. 解決；安排；使…定居
n. 有背長椅
settle (sb) down （使某人）安靜下來，（使某人）停止講話
settle back 舒服地躺[坐]下
settle for sth 勉強接受，將就
settle account 結(jié)帳,帳務(wù)處理,結(jié)算
settle with 清算,與人協(xié)商,償還
原句：I settled in to the psychology department, but the time still didn’t feel right to drink the champagne.
仿寫：We ?must settle the matter by ourselves now.
（4）purchase ['p?:t??s] ?
n. 購買；緊握；起重裝置
vt. 購買；贏得
vi. 購買東西
cash purchase 現(xiàn)金購買,現(xiàn)金購置
purchase contract 購貨合同
原句：Do you feel so guilty or anxious about spending money that you find it hard to purchase anything beyond the absolute basics?
仿寫：We need to purchase articles for daily use In the supermarket every week.
（5）distract [d?'str?kt] ?
? ?vt. 轉(zhuǎn)移；分心
distract thinking 發(fā)散思維
distract from 轉(zhuǎn)移；使從…分心
distracted ?adj. 心煩意亂的；思想不集中的 ? ?v. 分心（distract的過去式）
原句：We fail to predict how we will be tempted or distracted, so we fail to protect ourselves from abandoning our goals.
仿寫：He was distracted by anxiety .
Sentence
People who suffer from hyperopia are chronically farsighted-they cannot see the value of giving in today. This is as big a problem as being nearsighted; both lead to disappointment and unhappiness in the long run（從長遠(yuǎn)看來，終究，最終；結(jié)果）.
那些受“高瞻遠(yuǎn)矚”折磨的人則習(xí)慣看得更遠(yuǎn)，而看不到屈服于誘惑時的快感。這個問題其實和“目標(biāo)短淺”一樣嚴(yán)重，最后都會帶來失望和不快樂。
For people who have trouble saying yes to temptation, giving in requires as much self-control as saying no does for the rest of us.
對那些無法對誘惑說好的人，他們屈服誘惑時需要的自控力，和我們抵抗誘惑力時需要的意志力一樣多。
Do you have a hard time taking a break from work because there is always more to do? Do you feel so guilty or anxious about spending money that you find it hard to purchase anything beyond the absolute basics? Do you ever look back at how you have spent your time and money, and wish you had been more focused on your present happiness instead of always putting it off?
你是否有過這樣的感覺：因為總有更多的事情要做，似乎沒辦法放下工作休息一下？你是否對花錢產(chǎn)生了太多的罪惡感和焦慮感，以至于除了購買生活必需品，你覺得自己很難再去買變得東西？你有沒有回頭看過你是如何花費時間和金錢的？你會不會希望當(dāng)時你能更關(guān)注即時快樂，而不總是去推遲享受？
To make wiser decisions, we need to better understand and support our future selves. And we need to remember that the future self who receives the consequences of our present self s actions is, indeed, still us, and will very much appreciate the effort.
如果我們想要做出更明智的決定，就要更好的理解和支持未來的自己。我們還需要記住，為現(xiàn)在的行為承擔(dān)后果的，看似是未來的自己，實際上還是我們自己。未來的自己會對我們現(xiàn)在的付出感激不盡。
The Idea: Our inability to clearly see the future clearly leads us into temptation and procrastination.
我們無法明確的預(yù)知未來，這為我們帶來了誘惑，讓我們拖延著不做某些事。
—— ?啟 ?發(fā) ?——
啟 ?發(fā) ① 作者在這一章末尾給讀者刻意的提了個醒：觀察一下自己有沒有太"高瞻遠(yuǎn)矚"了？這個醒很重要，讓我們學(xué)會辯證思維。閱讀一本書，和作者思維碰撞，有兩點很重要：1，快速的獲取一些常識性的知識，以便于更好的觀察自己，看待生活；2，根據(jù)作者的某些觀點個性化匹配符合自己的行為調(diào)整和改進(jìn)的1,2,3...這個匹配很重要。盲目的照搬很容易削足適履....
啟 ?發(fā) ② ? 凡事都有兩面性或者多面性，自控力同樣如此。其實這本書很早之前保存在書單里，但是一直沒買，因為總覺得“自控力”這三個字讓人看著就覺得有壓力，如果一個人一生做所有的事情都需要通過自控力才能完成，那人生得多壓抑?。磕憧赐暌槐緯豢赡苋魺o其事不受任何影響，或多或少都會受到作者觀點及價值觀的引導(dǎo)，所以在茫茫書海尋找合適的書籍很重要，沒看之前總覺得這可能又是一本成功勵志心靈雞湯類的書籍。這次因為英語共讀而購買了這本書的英文版，在閱讀的梳理過程中，才發(fā)現(xiàn)和我想象中的成功勵志書還是很大不一樣的，一定程度上我倒覺得這是一本講自控力與大腦思維及行為習(xí)慣的科普讀物，一本涉及到很多常識類的書籍，還是很值得閱讀的，因為很多時候，我們也許不是缺信息或者知識，而是常識。
啟 ?發(fā) ③ ?關(guān)于自控力的使用，可以更辯證的看待。合理的使用意志力，但是不依賴意志力...
光靠自我不斷鞭策才能前行必然不能遠(yuǎn)行，疲憊感和焦慮感會很快襲來。人是宇宙間最奇妙的創(chuàng)造，人因七情六欲而生動和精彩.....所以，有些時候不妨跟著感覺走，意志力和做成一件事也許一定程度上成正比，但是和幸福并不存在正相關(guān)性。就像文章中說：對那些無法對誘惑說好的人，他們屈服誘惑時需要的自控力，和我們抵抗誘惑力時需要的意志力一樣多。其實，過于克制和壓抑自己，會造成無比巨大的身心壓力.....所以，我們需要了解自己的承壓指數(shù)，根據(jù)自己個性化的選擇自控力指數(shù)，如果依靠意志力在自己不喜歡的領(lǐng)域艱難支撐，還不如享受當(dāng)下自由選擇，嘗試更多路徑呢。但最好的結(jié)果是，某天我們?nèi)ジ咝瓿傻氖虑楦静恍枰恳庵玖χ危憔褪窍肓x無反顧的走向前去，只因為熱愛和喜歡。要相信，這個世界上一定有一些事情，是我們想做，而無需大范圍調(diào)動意志力的，這個前提是：找到我們真正熱愛并且愿意付之無限熱情的那件關(guān)鍵事情。
Summary
I get ?the scientific ?basis and methods of the willpower challenge through studying this chapter.I would like to try the ten-minute rule to help myself overcome the temptation to procrastinate.It is not inexhaustible although the willpower can be exercised as muscle,we should use the willpower correctly. Sometimes we should be more focused on our present happiness instead of always putting it off.
The key is that we will try to find the most passionate things in our life!
