愛情心理學(xué)2
In one of China's greatest classical novels, Dream of the Red Chamber, love is presented as a state of foolishness.在中國最偉大的古典小說……中，愛情被描繪成一種愚蠢的狀態(tài)。
A young man falls in love with a beautiful woman who tricks and makes a fool of him.一個(gè)年輕人愛上了一個(gè)漂亮的女人，這個(gè)女人?；ㄕ校阉?dāng)傻子。
This results in conflicting emotions of love and hate which tear him apart.這導(dǎo)致了愛與恨的矛盾情緒，把他撕碎了。
To cure him, a priest gives him a magic mirror.為了治好他，神父給了他一面魔鏡。
The priest tells him to look into the reverse side of the mirror, but never to look in the front side.神父讓他看鏡子的反面，但不要看前面。
What side of the mirror is he supposed to look into? the reverse side他應(yīng)該看鏡子的哪一面？反面
When the young man looks into the mirror, he doesn't like what he sees, so he? looks into the forbidden side, the front side.當(dāng)這個(gè)年輕人看著鏡子時(shí)，他不喜歡他看到的東西，所以他看了看被禁止的一面，前面。
There he sees the lovely image of his love, who invites him into the mirror to be with her.在那里他看到了他愛的可愛的形象，他邀請(qǐng)他到鏡子里和她在一起。
He does this several times until he is finally dragged away in chains.他這樣做了好幾次，直到最后被人用鎖鏈把他拖走。
He dies while looking into the mirror.他看著鏡子就死了。
Perhaps the point of the story is that all such attachments should be avoided.也許故事的重點(diǎn)是應(yīng)該避免所有這些附件。
Why does the young man look into the forbidden side of the mirror ? he doesn't like what he sees in the mirror.為什么那個(gè)年輕人要看鏡子里被禁止的一面？他不喜歡他在鏡子里看到的東西。
What finally happens to the young man? He is dragged away in chains and dies.這個(gè)年輕人最后會(huì)怎么樣？他被鐵鏈拖走死了。
He enters the mirror to be with his love and satisfy his desires.他進(jìn)入鏡子與他的愛，滿足他的欲望。
The way to free ourselves from suffering is to remove desires.使自己擺脫痛苦的方法是消除欲望。
He is dragged away in chains and dies while looking into the mirror.他被鐵鏈拖走，看著鏡子死去。
A famous French writer, Simone de Beauvoir has another point of view.作為法國著名作家，西蒙·德·波伏瓦有另一種觀點(diǎn)。
For her, love is the desire to integrate with another, like in a great friendship.對(duì)她來說，愛是一種與他人融為一體的渴望，就像在一段偉大的友誼中。
However, it is important what lovers not become too dependent on the other person.然而，重要的是，戀人不能過于依賴他人。
Becoming dependent on another person can lead to boredom or power games.依賴他人會(huì)導(dǎo)致無聊或權(quán)力游戲。
Lovers should support each other in discovering themselves and developing their potentials.情侶們應(yīng)該互相支持，發(fā)現(xiàn)自己，發(fā)展自己的潛能。
In this way, romantic love can enrich the world.這樣，浪漫的愛情可以豐富世界。
According to this writer, lovers should avoid becoming too dependent on the other person.據(jù)這位作家說，情侶們應(yīng)該避免過于依賴對(duì)方。
Falling in love can be exciting and frightening.墜入愛河會(huì)令人興奮和恐懼。
Maybe we lose ourselves and maybe we find ourselves.也許我們失去了自己，也許我們找到了自己。
Will you dare to find out?你敢知道嗎？
