如果關(guān)系建立在相互需要之上，就只能孳生沖突。我們彼此間無(wú)論多么相互依賴，究其實(shí)是為了某種意圖、某個(gè)目的而相互利用。如果關(guān)系中帶有某種目的，則真實(shí)的關(guān)系就不復(fù)存在，只是你利用我，我利用你而已。在這種相互利用中，我們失去了心靈的觸碰。一個(gè)建立在相互利用之上的社會(huì)，必成為暴力之淵藪。當(dāng)我們利用別人時(shí)，心里只有一個(gè)畫面——達(dá)成目的，而目的與利益會(huì)阻礙真實(shí)的關(guān)系與心靈的交融。在利用他人的過(guò)程中，不論氣氛如何愜意愉快，心底總有恐懼；為了逃避恐懼，我們必然支配他人，而支配必生嫉妒、猜疑，進(jìn)而產(chǎn)生無(wú)盡的沖突。這樣的關(guān)系絕不會(huì)帶來(lái)幸福。
如果社會(huì)結(jié)構(gòu)僅以生理或心理的相互需求為基礎(chǔ)，則必然滋生沖突、混亂與苦難。當(dāng)需求與利用構(gòu)成了你人際關(guān)系的主旋律，你把內(nèi)心投射于外，就構(gòu)成了社會(huì)。當(dāng)你利用他人來(lái)滿足自己生理或心理的需求，彼此就不再有真實(shí)的關(guān)系，不再有心靈觸碰，不再有心心交融。如果他人只是被你用作工具，圖謀一己的便利與安逸，那么你與他之間怎么可能有心心交融呢？所以，在日常生活中理解關(guān)系的意義，這是至關(guān)重要的。
——克里希那穆提《生命書：365觀心日課》（The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti）
Relationship
Relationship based on mutual need brings only conflict. However interdependent we are on each other, we are using each other for a purpose, for an end. With an end in view, relationship is not. You may use me and I may use you. In this usage, we lose contact. A society based on mutual usage is the foundation of violence. When we use another, we have only the picture of the end to be gained. The end, the gain, prevents relationship, communion. In the usage of another, however gratifying and comforting it may be, there is always fear. To avoid this fear, we must possess. From this possession there arises envy, suspicion, and constant conflict. Such a relationship can never bring about happiness.
A society whose structure is based on mere need, whether physiological or psychological, must breed conflict, confusion, and misery. Society is the projection of yourself in relation with another, in which the need and the use are predominant. When you use another for your need, physically or psychologically, in actuality there is no relationship at all; you really have no contact with the other, no communion with the other. How can you have communion with the other when the other is used as a piece of furniture, for your convenience and comfort? So, it is essential to understand the significance of relationship in daily life.
MARCH 5
