Unconciously, I heard my neighbor was screaming to her son "Why you are so stupid? I have told you many times. I don't want you anymore. I will divorce with your father. You just live with him!" Then her son cried sadly and couldn't focus on his test paper at all.
偶然間，我聽到鄰居對著她兒子嘶吼：“你怎么這么蠢吶？我跟你說過多少遍了？我不要你了，我跟你爸離婚，你跟他過好了！”他兒子聽到這些話哭得特別傷心,根本顧不上他的測驗卷。
She was shouting about her son's score in the test. Her son was the last one in his class.
這位媽媽在吼她兒子的測驗成績。她的兒子考了全班倒數(shù)第一。
Everytime I feel confused about their worry of kid's learning siuation. Maybe that's because I am not a mother of a child. Well, then In my opinion as a kid, as parents, they shouldn't say something too hurtful to their own kids.? What kids desire most is their love and encouragement. Hurtful words like "You are so stupid", "Stop doing that silly things" can do nothing but hurt kids' dignity. If you often blame or shout to your kids. They would tend to question themselves and can't regain the courage to do things better. What's worse, they would probably can't listen to others intently.
每次遇到這種情況，我總覺得很困惑，可能是因為我尚未為人父母。那我就從孩子的角度來說說我的看法。我認(rèn)為，作為父母不應(yīng)該對自己的孩子說一些太傷人的話。孩子最渴望的是父母的愛和鼓勵?！澳阍趺催@么蠢？”“別做那些蠢事了！”這些話除了傷孩子自尊之外并不能起到什么作用。如果你經(jīng)常責(zé)怪或者吼你的孩子，他們會懷疑自己,也難以把事情做好。更糟糕的是, 他們有可能不能認(rèn)真地聽別人說話。
I have worked as an English assistant in the training center. I noticed that each class there must be a naughty student. They aren't not willing to follow the teacher's step. As a result, they usually fall behind others learning process. Most of the time, their parents showed their worry with the frowning face. So the point is how could a little one be clear and strong enough to regain their confidence without less love and inspiration from parents when everyone feels disappointed about him or her?
我曾在英語培訓(xùn)機構(gòu)兼職過助教。我注意到每個班必定會有一個調(diào)皮的孩子。他們不愿意跟著老師的節(jié)奏去聽課，結(jié)果往往落后于其他同學(xué)的學(xué)習(xí)進度。對于孩子的這種情況，大多數(shù)父母都憂心忡忡，眉頭緊鎖。那么問題來了，那么小地一個孩子，缺乏父母的愛護和鼓勵，當(dāng)所有人都對他失望的時候，他怎么懂得理性堅強地重拾信心呢？
Therefore, being rational and kind to your kids is extremely important. That's the power what your kid need most for growing up. Trust your kid, don't compare them with other kids and say something too hurtful. Be proud of them. I believe that your trust and patience will encourage them to be better and better.
所以，理性溫柔地對待你的孩子是尤為重要的。那是你孩子成長最需要的力量。相信孩子，不要把他和別人家的孩子比較和說一些過重的話。以你的孩子為傲。我相信，你的信任和耐性將鼓勵他們變得越來越好。
By 繁華_易醉
