Problem-Solving needs time.

生活中，我們一遇到問(wèn)題，就想立馬找到解決辦法，當(dāng)問(wèn)題遲遲得不到解決時(shí)，我們不想再忍受解決問(wèn)題時(shí)的痛苦和不適時(shí)，我們就會(huì)兩手一攤，“我也無(wú)能為力了”。其實(shí)這也是一種延遲滿足的行為。解決辦法就好比一種滿足，人們不能夠一直探索找到問(wèn)題的解決辦法就用“我也無(wú)能為力了”來(lái)實(shí)現(xiàn)這種滿足。

還有一種心理就是想當(dāng)然的以為問(wèn)題自己會(huì)走開(kāi)，這類人趨向于忽略問(wèn)題，認(rèn)為問(wèn)題不存在，以為問(wèn)題真的就不存在了，其實(shí)這樣只會(huì)讓問(wèn)題越來(lái)越嚴(yán)重。這也是延遲滿足的一種現(xiàn)象。“Confronting problems is painful. To willingly confront a priblem early, before we are forced to confront it by circumstance, means to put aside something pleasant or less painful for smething more painful.”

have the the foggiest idea of :完全不知道

defect:缺點(diǎn)，不足

unfailing:始終如一的，不倦的

resignedly:聽(tīng)天由命的

hassel困難，麻煩

dead broke:身無(wú)分文的