本文資料來(lái)自網(wǎng)易公開(kāi)課，自己手動(dòng)記錄。我每晚都會(huì)看一節(jié)TED演講，并做一些摘抄。突然想到可以分享出來(lái)，讓大家都看到。
人生是一場(chǎng)馬拉松比賽，別著急，慢慢跑~～?學(xué)習(xí)也是，你我共勉！o(*≧▽≦)ツ
下面是我自己摘抄的一些詞：
trivial of issues 雞毛蒜皮的小事
conversational competence 交流能力
engage with ideas 接觸創(chuàng)意
hone interpersonal communications skills?發(fā)掘人際交往技能
1. Don't multitask 不要三心二意
Don't be half in it and half out of it. ?不要身在曹營(yíng)，心在漢。
There?is?no?reason?to?learn?how?to?show?you're?paying?attention,?if?you?are?in?fact?paying?attention.
根本沒(méi)必要去學(xué)習(xí)如何表現(xiàn)你很專(zhuān)心，如果你確實(shí)很專(zhuān)心。
Ture?listening?requires?a?setting?aside?of?oneself
真正的傾聽(tīng)需要把自己放在一邊
Everyone?you?will?ever?meet?knows?something?that?you?don't.
每一個(gè)你將要見(jiàn)到的人都有你不知道的東西
2. Don't pontificate 不要好為人師
?pundit ? 專(zhuān)家說(shuō)教 ?
n 有學(xué)問(wèn)的人，評(píng)論家（A person who knows a lot about?a particular subject and who often talks about it in public)
3.?Use?open-ended?questions?使用開(kāi)放式問(wèn)題
Start?your?questions?with?who,?what,?when,?where?or?how.
If?you?put?in?a?complicated?question,?you're?going?to?get?a?simple?answer?out.
Let?them?describle?it.?They're?the?ones?that?know.
Try?asking?them?like,?"What?was?that?like?"
試著這樣問(wèn)對(duì)方，”那是什么樣子？”
4.?Go?with?the?flow?順其自然
That?means?thoughts?will?come?into?your?mind?and?you?need?to?let?them?go?out?of?your?mind.
5.?If?you?don't?know,?say?that?you?don't?know
如果你不知道，就說(shuō)你不知道
Err?on?the?side?of?caution.?謹(jǐn)言慎行
Talk?should?be?not?cheap?談話應(yīng)該是負(fù)責(zé)任的行為
6.?Don't?equate?your?experience?with?theirs.
不要把自己的經(jīng)歷和他人比較
個(gè)人對(duì)這一點(diǎn)很感同身受?。?！
If?they're?talking?about?the?trouble?they're?having?at?work,?don't?tell?them?about?how?much?you?hate?your?job.
It's?not?the?same.?It?is?never?the?same.
這不一樣的，永遠(yuǎn)不可能一樣
All the experiences are individual. more importantly, it is not about you,
任何經(jīng)歷都是獨(dú)一無(wú)二的，更重要的是，這不是在談?wù)撃愕氖隆?/p>
Conversations?are?not?a?promotional?opportunity.
交談不是用來(lái)推銷(xiāo)自己的
7.?Try?not?to?repeat?yourself.?盡量別重復(fù)自己的話
It's?condescending,?and?it's?really?boring.
這很咄咄逼人，也很無(wú)聊。
8.?Stay?out?of?the?weeds.少說(shuō)廢話
What they care about is you, So forget the details. Leave them out.
9.?Listening?傾聽(tīng)
Listening?perhaps?the?most,?the?number?one?important?skill??that?your?could?develop.
If?your?mouth?is?open,?you?are?not?learning.
如果你嘴不停，你就學(xué)不到東西
If you can't do that, you're not in a conversation. You're just two people shouting out barely related sentences in the same place.
如果你不這么做，你們就不是在交談，你們只不過(guò)是兩個(gè)人在同一個(gè)地方彼此嚷嚷毫不相關(guān)的話。
Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand. We listen with the intent to reply.
我們大多數(shù)人都不是為了理解而傾聽(tīng)，我們?yōu)榱嘶貞?yīng)而聽(tīng)。
10.?Be?brief?簡(jiǎn)明扼要
A?good?conversation?is?like?a?minishirt,?short?enough?to?retain?interest,?but?long?enough?to?cover?the?subject.
好的交談就像恰到好處的迷你裙，足夠短，能夠吸引人，又足夠長(zhǎng)能夠包含住主體。
Be interested in other people, Everyone has some hidded, amazing thing about them.
對(duì)他人產(chǎn)生興趣，每個(gè)人都有不為人知的精彩。
Go out, talk to people, listen to people, and, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed.
PS：第一次寫(xiě)文，如果有讓你學(xué)到一些的話，請(qǐng)不要吝嗇你的贊和贊賞～
請(qǐng)我吃顆糖唄o(≧口≦)o?
