H/A = Human Adulthood 人類成人
人類成人是杰德提出的概念，可以理解為一種順流的狀態(tài)。
區(qū)別于開悟（了悟自我的非真實(shí)性/解除對(duì)虛假自我的認(rèn)同/徹底終結(jié)夢(mèng)境），人類成人是一種“在夢(mèng)中醒來(lái)、與存在協(xié)同創(chuàng)造”的狀態(tài)。
杰德認(rèn)為人類成人是值得追求的，它提供一個(gè)“更精彩、沖突更少”的游戲（在夢(mèng)境里愉快地玩耍）。
而開悟則意味著著一切自我價(jià)值的終結(jié)，因?yàn)楦緵](méi)有一個(gè)“我”能存活下來(lái)并得到任何東西或頭銜（沒(méi)有一個(gè)叫做“我”的真實(shí)的、實(shí)存的主體可以來(lái)開悟）。
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作者：Jed Mckenna
翻譯：Kamiko
你有沒(méi)有想過(guò)你在人類成人這條路上到底走了多遠(yuǎn)，又或者，某個(gè)人在通往成人的路上到了哪個(gè)位置？經(jīng)過(guò)多年的研究、觀察和體驗(yàn)，我發(fā)現(xiàn)這里面有個(gè)統(tǒng)一的標(biāo)志。
戲劇就是一個(gè)人得不到他想要的東西：失望，損失，匱乏，渣父母，娃坐牢，總之就是關(guān)于某個(gè)人求而不得的任何情形，更慘的是，其他人求仁得仁了。
戲劇基于“應(yīng)該”、“本可以”、“不愿意”、“需要”、“想要”等幾乎任何跟如是發(fā)生背道而馳的東西。如是發(fā)生的就是其所是的樣子，再怎么否認(rèn)也無(wú)法改變它。
想象一下，你正為生活掙扎，突然你的隔壁鄰居容光煥發(fā)地出現(xiàn)，告訴你他贏了彩票，喲吼~他爽得跟辛普森一家似的，嘴巴快咧到耳朵上。
辣么，我想問(wèn)的是：你對(duì)此感想如何？
撇開那些“你應(yīng)該”和“不應(yīng)該”，你到底會(huì)怎樣反應(yīng)？你真實(shí)的回應(yīng)能清楚地顯示你有多“成人”。
想象你打開新聞聯(lián)播，播音員用金凱瑞般的語(yǔ)氣對(duì)電視觀眾說(shuō)：
“晚上好親們，內(nèi)啥...今天沒(méi)什么大事發(fā)生，基本上老樣子，跟昨天差不多，嗯，又刮了個(gè)臺(tái)風(fēng)，不過(guò)就跟第一個(gè)似的...喔..聽(tīng)說(shuō)俄勒岡州的誰(shuí)誰(shuí)誰(shuí)和誰(shuí)誰(shuí)誰(shuí)又得了個(gè)孫子，男娃...恭喜這個(gè)家庭...好滴...今天的內(nèi)容就是介些。明天我大概還會(huì)在這兒，不過(guò)，不用期待有什么振奮人心的新消息哦~明天見(jiàn)~愛(ài)你~”
然后你換臺(tái)，收看你最愛(ài)的狗血?jiǎng) 懂?dāng)胃袋翻滾時(shí)》。這是最新一季的第一集，勞拉和南希邊喝咖啡邊聊天。南希被杰森這個(gè)登徒浪子迷得七暈八素。
勞拉說(shuō)“嘛，你直接跟他表白，問(wèn)他愿不愿意和你結(jié)婚不就可以？”南希說(shuō)“你覺(jué)得這么做能成？” “哎喲，最多也就是被他拒絕嘛?！?/p>
南希鼓起勇氣找杰森表白。他說(shuō)“好滴~”...他們就這么結(jié)婚然后無(wú)比神奇地幸福到金婚。
當(dāng)然，狗血?jiǎng)∫沁@么寫，九成九被砍+編劇走人。
但戲劇不是這么運(yùn)作的。
在戲劇版本里，南希向杰森表白，杰森說(shuō)他已經(jīng)深深愛(ài)上勞拉了，不能和南希結(jié)婚。當(dāng)然，勞拉是姬佬，她深愛(ài)著南希，杰森拒絕求婚正中她下懷。然而勞拉也不會(huì)得償所愿，畢竟南希是箭一般的鋼鐵宇直。本集完。
大多數(shù)人的生活更像戲劇。人們喜歡看電視，并且真的相信里面的內(nèi)容...每天花好幾個(gè)小時(shí)看狗血?jiǎng)』蝾愃频臇|西，比如論壇或者博客，那種能引發(fā)爭(zhēng)議和熱論的內(nèi)容...這么做拉高了吃瓜群眾和始作俑者那虛幻的自我逼格。
所以，好好看看你自己和別人。
被戲劇吸引的程度清楚地顯示出你有多“成人”。對(duì)鄰居中彩票的感想會(huì)告訴你關(guān)于你的大部分信息，只要你去傾聽(tīng)。
有什么是你想要卻得不到的？有什么東西別人都得到了，唯獨(dú)你求而不得？有什么是你不想要卻反復(fù)出現(xiàn)在你生活中的？
進(jìn)一步講，你如何知道你想要或者不想要某事某物？是什么讓你知道你的好惡？你能完全確定你想要或者不想要某樣特定的東西嗎？
不妨花點(diǎn)時(shí)間，去“想要”這個(gè)當(dāng)下你切實(shí)擁有的一切。有法律規(guī)定說(shuō)你不能“想要”眼前升起的一切嗎？
什么或者誰(shuí)是那個(gè)評(píng)判對(duì)錯(cuò)的終極審判者？你腦袋里那個(gè)小小的聲音真的是你的嗎？也許它來(lái)自于你父母中的一方，早年學(xué)校里的某個(gè)老師，某個(gè)牧師，某個(gè)你仰慕的朋友什么的...
然而，我不聽(tīng)命于任何不是“我的”的聲音，這意味著我腦袋里響起的聲音實(shí)在沒(méi)幾個(gè)...而當(dāng)它剛好在說(shuō)點(diǎn)什么時(shí)，我會(huì)仔細(xì)傾聽(tīng)。
所以，你到達(dá)人類成人旅途的哪個(gè)位置了呢？盡管我們?cè)谟懻撨@個(gè)話題，但人類成人對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)真的重要嗎？你真的需要在意這個(gè)？
我可以回答你（對(duì)，我就是這么狂）：因?yàn)槟悴豢鞓?lè)。這解釋了一切，所有你“想要某事某物”的理由，說(shuō)穿了就是這個(gè)...
我說(shuō)得對(duì)么？來(lái)嘛，誠(chéng)實(shí)點(diǎn)，被我說(shuō)中了吧？既然你讀到這兒了，說(shuō)明有什么在困擾著你。
如果你還在讀下去，讓我（擅做主張地）給你點(diǎn)建議。
不要再參與、圍觀、煽動(dòng)你生活中的戲劇。這些東西只能使你短暫地興奮，類似吃甜品帶來(lái)的那點(diǎn)快感..
最終這（停止給戲劇灌注能量）會(huì)扯落你生命的年歲，并抽掉年歲的生命。
你還沒(méi)在這個(gè)夢(mèng)中顯化出一個(gè)被痛苦和戲劇燃盡的自我?；蛟S你已經(jīng)在自我消耗了...好好地看一看，最近你又往你的戲劇火堆里丟了什么樣的燃料？
你在成為成人的路上走了多遠(yuǎn)？答案顯然就在你眼前。
愛(ài)你，杰德。
P.S.希望我那死鬼鄰居用他的彩票獎(jiǎng)金買臺(tái)安靜點(diǎn)的割草機(jī)，這樣我白天就能睡個(gè)安穩(wěn)覺(jué)了。神愿我睡過(guò)頭，我便如此。
原文
Have you ever wonder how far along the road to H/A you have come, or perhaps, looked at someone and wondered how far he or she is along the path to adulthood? Over too many years of study, observation and experience, I have found that there is one very consistent indicator.?
Drama is all about not getting what one wants... about frustration, loss, inadequacies, bad parents, kids in jail, just about any situation where someone doesn't get what they want, and even better, someone else gets it. Drama is based on shoulds, coulds, wouldn't, needs, wants, just about anything that goes against what is. What is is exactly what is and not amount of denying it has ever changed it.
Imagine this, you are struggling along in life and you next door neighbor comes charging in one day, glowing like a Cali grow op, and declares he has won the lottery, who hoo! Ecstatic in a Homer Simpson way... smiles from ear to ear.
Now...my question is how are you going to feel? All shoulds and shouldn't aside, how would you react? Your actual response is an excellent measure of how adult you are.
Imagine you turn on CNN and announcer has gone all Jim Carrey on the TV audience. ''Evening folks, well... not much happened today, mostly same old same old, pretty much like yesterday, Yeh, another hurricane, but same as the first.... oh.. it seems that Bob and Better Sturnholme in Eugene, Oregon had a new grandchild, a little boy... congrats to the fam... so... that's about it. I'll probably be here tomorrow, but don't expect anything exciting. See ya then. Love ya."
Then you turn to your favorite soap, As the Stomach Turns. This is the first new season episode and finds Laura and Nancy talking over a coffee. Nancy is totally heads over heals for Jason, a real hunk. Laura says, ''Well, why don't you just come out and ask him to marry you''. Nancy says,? "You think I could do that?''. ''Well, worst he could say is no''.?
Nancy plucks up the courage and asks Jason. He says ''Yes''... they get married and end up deliriously happy into their golden years. Of course the soap is promptly canned and the writer fired.?
But drama doesn't work like that. In the dramatic version, Nancy asks Jason and he says he is in love with Laura and won't marry her. Of course Laura is gay and in love with Nancy and delighted with Jame's rejection of the proposal. Laura is not going to get what she wants because Nancy is as straight as an arrow. End of episode.
Life is more like this than not for most people. Folks like watching TV and actually believe it... spend hours each day watching soaps and the like. Maybe it's forums or blogs, the kinds that foment argument and demeaning posts ... and in doing so lift the observer and writer up to new heights of illusory self-esteem.
So, watch yourself and others. The draw to drama is a pretty good indicator of how adult you are. How you feel about your neighbor winning that lottery will tell you plenty about yourself if you listen.?
What do you want but aren't getting? What do you want and it seems everyone but you is getting it? What do you not want yet is seems to be constantly turning up in your world? A better question would be, how do you know that you want or don't want something? What informs you of your preferences? Are you sure you want and don't want certain things??
Maybe take a moment and want exactly what you have in this moment. What law says you can't want what arises to you? What or who is the ultimate adjudicator of what is right or wrong? Is that little voice in your head even yours? Maybe it's a parent, an early school teacher, a minister, a friend you look up to.. I don't know. BUT, I don't listen to any voice that isn't MINE, which means there are very few voices going around in my head... and if it happens to say something, I listen closely.
So, where are you on your journey to H/A... and while on the topic, why even bother with H/A? I can answer for you (yeah, sheesh, I actually am that arrogant)... because you aren't happy. That sums it up, make up all the reasons you want, but that is what it boils down to... am I right? Come on, be honest, am I right? You read this far so somethings bothering you.
If you are still reading, let me offer you some (non-asked for) advice. Stop engaging in, watching, encouraging drama in your life. It's only going to give you a temporary rush, like that double chocolate fudge banana split sunday... in the end it will take years off your life and life out of your years. You haven't materialized in the dream to burn yourself out with misery and drama. You might be doing that right now though... have a look and see. What have you done lately that was like throwing gas on your drama campfire?
How far are you along the road to becoming an adult... it's right in front of you.
Love ya, Jed.
P.S. I hope my friggin neighbor buys are quieter lawnmower with his lotto winnings so I can sleep in more. God meant me to sleep in, that's why I do it.
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