我有必要分享這個嗎？它可以給我和他人的生活帶來價值嗎？
我可以遲一些分享這個體驗而專注于體驗這個體驗嗎？
我是在求證嗎？我可以通過其他方法自己去求證嗎？
我是在逃避現(xiàn)實從而在社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)上發(fā)表言論自欺欺人嗎？
我是因為無聊嗎？我有去做可以「經(jīng)營我的生活，并讓自己更有目的性」的事情嗎？
我是感到孤獨嗎？我有為「有意義的交流、接觸」去創(chuàng)造機遇嗎？
我是害怕錯過嗎？逃避現(xiàn)實所獲得的滿足感是否等價我當下所失去的東西呢？
我是在自欺欺人，迎合主流嗎？我可以放手昨日、迎接當下嗎？
我可以靜心面對時間，而不是刻意尋找東西去填滿它嗎？
題外話：誠然網(wǎng)絡(luò)社交應(yīng)該是一種輕松的體驗，搞得這么嚴肅。并不是想上綱上線，而是覺得我們已經(jīng)在過度消費社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)，卻忘了當下自己的生活。
問自己：我有多長時間原地踏步了？
Social media teaches us to take a reactive stance. Just log onto Twitter or Facebook and the information streams in incessantly. You could spend your entire lifetime (and then some) just replying to other peoples’ updates. But if we want social media to truly serve us, we need to start taking a more mindful approach to how we use it.
In our new 99U book, Tiny Buddha’s Lori Deschene offers up a handful of hard-hitting questions we should all be asking ourselves:
- Is it necessary to share this? Will it add value to my life and for other people?
- Can I share this experience later so I can focus on living it now?
- Am I looking for validation? Is there something I could do to validate myself?
- Am I avoiding something I need to do instead of addressing why I don’t want to do it?
- Am I feeling bored? Is there something else I could do to feel more purposeful and engaged in my day?
- Am I feeling lonely? Have I created opportunities for meaningful connection in my day?
- Am I afraid of missing out? Is the gratification of giving in to that fear worth missing out on what’s in front of me?
- Am I overwhelming myself, trying to catchup? Can I let go of yesterday’s conversation and join today’s instead?
- Can I use this time to simply be instead of looking for something to do to fill it?
