Ronald?and?Lois,?married?for?two?decades,?considerthemselves?a?happy?couple.
But?in?the?early?years?of?their?marriage,?both?were?disturbed?(爭吵）by?persistent（持續(xù)）arguments?that?seem?to?fadeaway?without ever?being?truly?resolved.
They uncovered clues（線索）?to what was going wrong by researching ?a fascinating subject：
how?birth?order?affects?not?only?your?personality,?but?also?how?compatible?you?are?with?your mate.
Ronald?and?Lois?are?only?children,?and?"onlies"?grow?up?accustomed（習慣于）?to?being?the?apple of?their parents'?eyes.
Match?two?"onlies"?and?you?have?partners?who?subconsciously（下意識地）?expect?each?other?to?continue fulfilling?this?expectation,
while?neither?has?much?experience?in?the?"giving"?end.
羅納德和洛伊絲結(jié)婚二十年，是一對幸福的夫妻
但在剛結(jié)婚的幾年里，他們總是不停地爭吵，每次爭吵都會過去，但問題卻總是沒有真正地解決.。
他們通過一個研究課題，發(fā)現(xiàn)了問題所在：
出生順序不僅會影響你的個性，還會影響你和伴侶的融洽程度。
羅納德和露易絲是家里的獨生子女，都是家里人掌心上的寶。
兩個獨生子女組成一個家庭，雙方的潛意識里期待繼續(xù)被對方寵著。
然而，兩人都沒有多少“付出”的經(jīng)驗。
Here's a?list?of?common?birth-order characteristics
—and?some?thoughts?on?the?best?and?worst marital?matches?for?each.
The?oldest?tends?to?be?self-assured（自信的）,respionsible,a high acheieve,and?relatively?serious?and?reserved.
He?may?be?slow?to?make?friends,?perhaps?content（滿意的）?with?only?one?companion.
The?best?matches?are?with?a?youngest,?an?"only",?or?a?mate?raised?in?a?large?family.
The?worst?match?is?with?another?oldest,?since?the?two?will?be?too?sovereign（元首）?to?share?a household?comfortably.
The?youngest?child?of?the?family?thrives（興旺）?on?attention?and?tends to?be?outgoing,?
adventurous,?optimistic,?creative?and?less?ambitious?than?others?in?the?family.
He?may?lack?self-discipline?and?have?difficulty?making?decisions?on?his?own.
A?youngest?brother?of?brothers,?often?unpredictable(不可預(yù)測的)?and romantic,
will?match?best?with?an oldest?sister?of?brothers.
The?youngest?sister?of?brothers?is?best?matched?with?an?oldest?brother?of?sisters,?who?willhappily?indulge(滿足)?these?traits（特質(zhì)）.
The?middle?child?is?influenced?by?many?variables;
以下是出生順序的一些常見特征，以及一些關(guān)于最佳和最差婚姻匹配的觀點。
老大往往自信、負責、成績優(yōu)異、比較嚴肅、保守。
他交朋友的速度可能很慢，也許只和一個同伴相處就夠了。
最適合的伴侶是年齡最小的“獨生子女”或在大家庭中長大。
最不適合的伴侶是家里的老大，因為兩人太有主見，而無法幸福地組成一個家庭。
老幺精力充沛，往往比較外向、冒險、樂觀、有創(chuàng)造力、而且沒有家里其他孩子那么雄心勃勃，
但可能自律性不夠，很難自己做決定。
兄弟中最小的往往捉摸不定，比較浪漫，最適合兄弟姐妹里的姐姐。
兄弟姐妹中，年紀最小的妹妹適合年紀最大的哥哥，男方會包容女方。
老二比較多變；
however,?middles?are?less?likely?to?take?initiative?and?more?anxious?and?self-critical?than others.
Middles?often?successfully?marry?other?middles,?since?both?are?strong?on?tact,?not?so?strong?onthe?aggressiveness（侵略性）?and?tend?to?crave affection.
The?only?child?is?often?most?comfortable?when?alone.
But?since?an?"only"?tends?to?be?a?well-adjusted?individual,she'll?eventually?
learn to?relate?to（有關(guān)）?any?chosen?spouse（配偶）.
The?male?only?child?expects?his?wife?to?make?life?easier?without?getting?much?in?return.
He?is?sometimes?best?matched?with?a?younger?sister?of?brothers.
The?female?only?child,?who?tends?to?be?slightly?more?flexible（活潑的）,
is?well?matched?with?an?olderman,who?will?indulge?her?tendency?to?test?his?love.
Her?worst?match??Another?"only",?of?course.
然而，老二不太主動，他們會比其他人更焦慮，更加自我苛責。
老二通常也會選擇老二結(jié)婚，因為他們都很老練，不那么咄咄逼人，喜歡追求愛情。
獨生子女通常自己一個人的時候比較舒服自在，
但獨生子女的適應(yīng)能力一般都比較強，因此他們最終能適應(yīng)自己的伴侶。
獨生子希望他的妻子能讓生活更加舒適而不要求太多回報。
最適合兄弟姐妹里的妹妹。
獨生女往往稍微活潑一點，適合年長的男性，這樣的男人會縱容她的一些的小脾氣，給她無盡的寵愛。
洛伊絲的情況比較糟糕，她嫁的也是獨生子。
歡迎來公眾號“大毛雜貨鋪”看看，可獲PPT,書單，投稿等資源
