2017年7月11日
Alternative Centers 各種中心
人人都有生活中心，它們對(duì)生活各方面都有很強(qiáng)烈的影響。
Spouse Centeredness配偶中心比如有的人生活以配偶為中心，咋聽(tīng)起來(lái)，無(wú)可厚非，配偶畢竟是我們生活中最親密的伴侶。但是以配偶為重心的婚姻關(guān)系，多半發(fā)生情感過(guò)度依賴(lài)的問(wèn)題。太過(guò)于重視婚姻，會(huì)使人的情感異常脆弱，經(jīng)不起些許打擊，甚至無(wú)法面對(duì)如新生兒降臨或經(jīng)濟(jì)窘迫等變化?；橐鰰?huì)帶來(lái)更多的責(zé)任與壓力，兩個(gè)背景不同的人，思想必定有差異，于是乎理財(cái)、教養(yǎng)子女等等問(wèn)題，都會(huì)引起爭(zhēng)執(zhí)。如果我們一方面在情感上依賴(lài)對(duì)方，一方面又與對(duì)方在觀(guān)念上有所突擊，就極易陷入愛(ài)恨交織、進(jìn)退兩難的矛盾中。
Family Centeredness家庭中心以家庭為重的現(xiàn)象也十分普遍，而且似乎理所當(dāng)然。但是過(guò)分注重家庭生活，反而對(duì)家庭有害。太仰賴(lài)家庭提供安全感及價(jià)值感，太重視家族傳統(tǒng)與名譽(yù)，通常無(wú)法接受任何可能影響這些傳統(tǒng)與聲譽(yù)的改變。以家庭為重的父母，不能為子女的真正幸福著想，他們的愛(ài)往往是有條件的。
另外還有Money Centeredness（以金錢(qián)為中心）,Work Centeredness（以工作為中心）,Possession Centeredness（以名利為中心）,Pleasure Centeredness（以享樂(lè)為中心）,Friend/Enemy Centeredness（以敵人或朋友為中心）,Church Centeredness（以宗教為中心）Self-Centeredness（以自我為中心）。
那么什么是你的生活中心?有時(shí)并不容易回答。般說(shuō)來(lái)，我們的生活中心是以上某幾種中心的混合體，依環(huán)境不同而有所變化。大多數(shù)人的生
活受到多種因素的影響。生活中心如此搖擺不定，情緒上難免起起落落，沒(méi)有確定的生活中心，就容易缺乏一種安全感，沒(méi)有了安全感Security，那么對(duì)自己的生活就沒(méi)有一個(gè)明確的人生方向Guidance，隨之而來(lái)的智慧Wisdom和力量Power及無(wú)從而來(lái)，進(jìn)而影響區(qū)就會(huì)縮小，更容易被外在環(huán)境所左右影響。
A Principle Center以原則為中心
如果以正確原則作為生活中心，那么就可以為四個(gè)支撐人生的因素建立一個(gè)堅(jiān)實(shí)的基礎(chǔ)。認(rèn)識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)，我們就有了安全感。Our security comes from knowing that correct principles do not change.。原則是恒久不變的，所以值得信賴(lài)，可以給我們高度的安全感。原則是理性而非感性的，因此能讓我們充滿(mǎn)信心，配偶和密友都可能離我們而去，但原則不會(huì)。原則不取決于環(huán)境、他人行為或“流行”。原則是永生的，不會(huì)毀于火災(zāi)、地震或偷盜，也不會(huì)今天在這兒，明天又到了那兒。
Principles are deep ,fundamental truths,classic truths,generic common denominators.They are tightly interwoven threads running with exactness,consistency,beauty,and strength through the fabric of life.
如果以原則為生活中心，智慧和人生方向的來(lái)源就是正確的地圖，The wisdom and guidance come from correct maps.反映事物的真實(shí)現(xiàn)狀。正確的地圖讓我們能夠清晰了解自己的目標(biāo)，能夠基于正確的知識(shí)做出正確的決定。The?power?comes from a self-aware, knowledgeable, proactive individual.
以永恒不變的原則作為生活中心，就能建立高效能的思維定式，也就能正確審視所有其他的生活中心。
以原則為中心的人會(huì)保持冷靜和客觀(guān)，不受情緒或其他因素的干擾，綜觀(guān)全局——工作需要、家庭需要、以及其他相關(guān)需要及不同決定的可能后果，深思熟慮，綜合考慮后才做出正確的選擇。
As a principle-centered person,you try tostand apart fromthe emotion of the situation and other factors that would act on you,and evaluate the options.Looking at the?balanced whole,teh work nees,teh family needs,other needs that may be involved and the possible implications of various alternative decisions----you'll try to come up with the best solution,taking all factors into consideration.
單詞部分
1.edge? n.[sing.]~ (on / over sb / sth)a slight advantage over sb / sth? (微弱的)優(yōu)勢(shì):
The company needs to improve its competitive edge.公司必須提高它的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)力。
They have the edge on us.他們略勝我們一籌。
(PHRASE) 緊張不安;煩躁 If you or your nerves are on edge, you are tense, nervous, and unable to relax.
● My nerves were constantly on edge.
(PHRASE) 有濃厚興趣；聚精會(huì)神 If you say that someone is on the edge of their seat or chair, you mean that they are very interested in what is happening or what is going to happen.
● Most of the time the audience is on the edge of its seat.
2.detect? 發(fā)現(xiàn);查出;測(cè)出 To detect something means to find it or discover that it is present somewhere by using equipment or making an investigation.
● ...a sensitive piece of equipment used to detect radiation...
覺(jué)察;發(fā)覺(jué) If you detect something, you notice it or sense it, even though it is not very obvious.
● Arnold could detect a certain sadness in the old man's face.
3.omniscient? ADJ) 全知全能的；無(wú)所不知的；博聞廣識(shí)的 If you describe someone as omniscient, you mean they know or seem to know everything.
● ...a benevolent and omniscient deity.
4.tangible? adj.清晰可見(jiàn)的;摸得著的;感覺(jué)得到的;明顯的 If something is tangible, it is clear enough or definite enough to be easily seen, felt, or noticed.
There should be some tangible evidence that the economy is starting to recover...
5.vulnerable? adj.脆弱的;易受傷害的 Someone who is vulnerable is weak and without protection, with the result that they are easily hurt physically or emotionally.
Old people are particularly vulnerable members of our society
易感染（某種疾?。┑?；易患病的 If a person, animal, or plant is vulnerable to a disease, they are more likely to get it than other people, animals, or plants.
People with high blood pressure are especially vulnerable to diabetes..
