《相約星期二（漢英對(duì)照）》

About cultrue

About? Marriage

there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don't

respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to

compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on

between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of

values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike

You get tested. You find out who you

are, who the other person is, and how you accommodate or don't.

But the poor kids today, either they're too selfish to take part in a real loving relationship, or

they rush into marriage and then six months later, they get divorced. They don't know what

they want in a partner. They don't know who they are themselves-so how can they know who

they're marrying?

About Love

love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.

"I believe in being fully present," Morrie said. "That means you should be with the person

you're with. When I'm talking to you now, Mitch, I try to keep focused only on what is going

on between us. I am not thinking about something we said last week. I am not thinking of

what's coming up this Friday. I am not thinking about doing another Koppel show, or about

what medications I'm taking.

Learning to pay attention? How important could that be? I now know it is more important

than almost everything they taught us in college.

Part of the problem, Mitch, is that everyone is in such a hurry," Morrie said. "People haven't

found meaning in their lives, so they're running all the time looking for it. They think the next

car, the next house, the next job. Then they find those things are empty, too, and they keep

running.

About? ?Money

Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can?tell you, as I'm sitting here dying, when you most need it, neither money nor power will give?you the feeling you're looking for, no matter how much of them?

you have?There's a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need."The truth is, you don't get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives yousatisfaction?"? hat?"Offering others what you have to give."

Remember?what I said about finding a meaningful life? I wrote it down, but now I can recite it:?

Devote?yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself?to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

if you're trying to show off for

people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you're trying to show

off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere.

Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone

About? Aging?

"How can I be envious of where you are-when I've been there myself?"

"It's very simple. As you grow, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-two, you'd always be

as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It's growth. It's

more than the negative that you're going to die, it's also the positive that you understand

you're going to die, and that you live a better life because of it."

He smiled. "You know what that reflects? Unsatisfied lives. Unfulfilled lives. Lives that

haven't found meaning. Because if you've found meaning in your life, you don't want to go

back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more. You can't wait until sixty-five.

"Listen. You should know something. All younger people should know something. If you're

always battling against getting older, you're always going to be unhappy, because it will

happen anyhow

"The truth is, part of me is every age. I'm a three-year-old, I'm a five-year-old, I'm a thirty-

seven-year-old, I'm a fifty-year-old. I've been through all of them, and I know what it's like. I

delight in being a child when it's appropriate to be a child. I delight in being a wise old man

when it's appropriate to be a wise old man. Think of all I can be! I am every age, up to my

own. Do you understand?"

About Emotions

But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way,?over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You?know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, `All right. I haveexperienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion?for a moment.' "

Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the?emotion. It won't hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a?familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "All right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it?control me. I see it for what it is."s

About?Family

"This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there's someone

who is watching out for them. It's what I missed so much when my mother died-what I call

your `spiritual security'-knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing

else will give you that. Not money. Not fame.Not work.

About?Death

Learn how to die, and you learn how to live.

We are too involved in materialisticthings, and they don't satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we

take these things for granted.

?2020-05-24 12:36:32

永生的是愛(ài)，代代流傳

只要我們彼此相愛(ài)，并把它珍藏在心里，我們即使死了也不會(huì)真正地消亡。你創(chuàng)造的愛(ài)依然存在著。所有的記憶依然存在著。你仍然活著——活在每一個(gè)你觸摸過(guò)愛(ài)撫過(guò)的人的心中

?2020-05-24 12:35:39

“死是很自然的，”他說(shuō)?！拔覀冎詫?duì)死亡大驚小怪，是因?yàn)槲覀儧](méi)有把自己視作自然的一部分。我們覺(jué)得既然是人就得高于自然?！?/p>

?2020-05-24 09:50:29

去感受那些我們躺在床上就能感受的東西，心情才能真正的平靜下來(lái)，遠(yuǎn)離外部的物質(zhì)世界。

他說(shuō)他正在遠(yuǎn)離外面的世界，不再像以前那么多地聽(tīng)人讀報(bào)，也不太關(guān)心來(lái)往的信件，更多時(shí)候是聽(tīng)聽(tīng)音樂(lè)，看窗外的樹(shù)葉漸漸地變換顏色。

?2020-05-24 09:49:08

we need help anytime.

在生命的中途，我們同樣需要?jiǎng)e人活著

?2020-05-24 09:48:08

小社會(huì)，小法則，小幸福，形成小文化。這個(gè)提法很新穎。小問(wèn)題，遵章守紀(jì)，大問(wèn)題自己決定。

建立一個(gè)由你愛(ài)的人和愛(ài)你的人組成的小社會(huì)

?2020-05-05 13:03:45

我們需要的不僅僅是物質(zhì)財(cái)富，更重要的還需要精神的財(cái)富，比較而言，物質(zhì)的財(cái)富，你總是能很快的消耗掉，而且也并不需要太多。然而精神的財(cái)富卻讓我們擁有心靈上的富足和心理上的滿(mǎn)足，并且精神財(cái)富的追求是永無(wú)止境。讓我們不斷有成就感獲得感。

許多病人都很有錢(qián)，來(lái)自富有的家庭，顯然財(cái)富并沒(méi)有為他們帶來(lái)幸福和滿(mǎn)足。這是莫里永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)忘記的經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)。

?2020-05-05 12:56:45

大道至簡(jiǎn)，那是修行，大隱隱于市，工作即修行…全身心的投入到你的生活中去，接納一切，好你壞的感情，真實(shí)的去體會(huì)，然后你才能超然于事外。以上帝的視角，去審視自己的，過(guò)去現(xiàn)在及未來(lái)。

你在思考了，米奇。但超脫并不是說(shuō)不投入到生活中去。相反，你應(yīng)該完完全全地投入進(jìn)去。然后你才走得出來(lái)?！蔽颐糟恕！敖邮芩械母星椤獙?duì)女人的愛(ài)戀，對(duì)親人的悲傷，或像我所經(jīng)歷的：由致命的疾病而引起的恐懼和痛苦。如果你逃避這些感情——不讓自己去感受、經(jīng)歷——你就永遠(yuǎn)超脫不了，因?yàn)槟闶冀K心存恐懼。你害怕痛苦，害怕悲傷，害怕愛(ài)必須承受的感情傷害?！翱赡阋坏┩度脒M(jìn)去，沉浸在感情的汪洋里，你就能充分地體驗(yàn)它，知道什么是痛苦，什么是悲傷。只有到那時(shí)你才能說(shuō)，‘好吧，我已經(jīng)經(jīng)歷了這份感情，我已經(jīng)認(rèn)識(shí)了這份感情，現(xiàn)在我需要暫時(shí)超脫它’?！?/p>

?2020-05-05 12:47:41

家就是無(wú)論你多晚回來(lái)，總有那么一盞燈，為你點(diǎn)亮，等你回來(lái)。家是真正溫馨的港灣，是我們放下所有的心理準(zhǔn)備，完完全全得到滋養(yǎng)和恢復(fù)的地方，因?yàn)檫@里有不計(jì)成本的愛(ài)，不記得失的愛(ài)，無(wú)條件的愛(ài)。

‘心理安全’——知道有一個(gè)家在守護(hù)著你。只有家庭能給予你這種感覺(jué)。金錢(qián)辦不到。名望辦不到。”他看了我一眼。“工作也辦不到，

?2020-05-05 11:01:22

你們往往對(duì)最關(guān)鍵的問(wèn)題選擇回避逃避，視而不見(jiàn)，其實(shí)一旦解決了關(guān)鍵的問(wèn)題，那就會(huì)處處變得暢通。

一旦你學(xué)會(huì)了怎樣去死，你也就學(xué)會(huì)了怎樣去活。一旦你學(xué)會(huì)了怎樣去死，你也就學(xué)會(huì)了怎樣去活。”

?2020-05-05 10:57:37

把生命中的每一天當(dāng)成是最后一天，向死而生，讓自己死而無(wú)憾！悲觀的人，每活一天就覺(jué)得少了一天；樂(lè)觀的人，每活一天就覺(jué)得多活了一天，要每一天都過(guò)得更精彩！

死而無(wú)憾

?2020-05-04 11:15:19

The most important things in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.If life is just like a wresting match, and which side wins? love wins,love always wins.

人生最重要的是學(xué)會(huì)如何施愛(ài)于人，并去接受愛(ài)。