Trevor 和媽媽的關(guān)系，就像貓和老鼠，就像是警察和罪犯。兩人之間常常是斗智斗勇。這一章中，講到好幾個有趣的例子。 一次他纏著媽媽要糖果時，媽媽靈機一動，假裝答應，等他拿了糖果來結(jié)賬時，假裝不認識他，大大秀了一把演技。

Trevor七八歲的時候，媽媽開始和他用寫信的方式溝通，不知道這是不是他媽媽為了鍛煉他分析和寫作的能力而有意為之？兩人就像是律師對簿公堂，相互找對方的漏洞。Trevor對答和分析得有板有眼，寫信一來二去還真培養(yǎng)了他分析和辯論的能力。?

小事靠寫信，大事打板子。但是不管怎樣的方式，Trevor都“服氣”， 因為母親的每次管教出于愛，出于違反原則紀律的矯正，而不是出于意氣用事或生氣發(fā)泄。

One thing I respected about my mom was that she never left me in any doubt as to why I was receivign the hiding . It wasn't rage or anger . It was discipline from a place of love.?

Because you did something wrong . It doesn‘’t mean I don't love you anymore .?

而且母親很有原則，鼓勵Trevor挑戰(zhàn)不合理。我又仿佛看到那位倔強個性，不屈從于荒謬制度的驕傲女性。

My mother grew up with these rules and she questioned them when they didn't hold up ,she simply went around them . She taught me to challenge authority and quesiton the system .?

母親教給Trevor另一個重要的品質(zhì)就是：忘記生活中的不如意，信心滿滿向前行。不要因為生活中的挫折和不如意而畏縮不前。

But I was blessed with another trait I inherited from my mother :her ability to forget the pain in life.

It's better to take it ,spend some time crying , then wake up the next day and move on .

生活的哲學不正是如此？生活中不如意十之八九，哭過笑過，不論怎樣，明天又是嶄新的一天，在不如意的世界里全力以赴。