心理研究表明，人在對(duì)另一個(gè)人表露內(nèi)心的時(shí)候，會(huì)不自覺對(duì)對(duì)方產(chǎn)生信任感、安全感，從而激發(fā)依賴感。而依賴感是愛情的產(chǎn)生條件之一。
但不是所有人都會(huì)主動(dòng)對(duì)別人、甚至你的另一半袒露內(nèi)心的想法，但不用擔(dān)心，別人不主動(dòng)不代表沒有進(jìn)展——我們可以主動(dòng)，采取提問的方式，讓對(duì)方根據(jù)問題回答，觸碰內(nèi)心聲音。
36個(gè)問題，需要你們互相提問，真誠回答。彼此空出30分鐘，面對(duì)面坐在一起，看著對(duì)方的眼神。選擇放松的溫馨的環(huán)境更能打開心扉。
問題分為三個(gè)部分，問題的回答含括多個(gè)心理領(lǐng)域：彼此的三觀，興趣與喜好，對(duì)生活的規(guī)劃，自己的習(xí)慣，對(duì)另一半的期望，對(duì)未來的設(shè)想，對(duì)過去快樂的或悲傷的回憶，對(duì)害怕事情的恐懼，搜尋對(duì)方的優(yōu)點(diǎn)、缺點(diǎn)（促進(jìn)更進(jìn)一步的了解），與對(duì)方分享秘密，讓對(duì)方說出想對(duì)你說的話，等等
開始測試吧～
Set III
第一部分
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1. 世界上所有人當(dāng)中，你愿意選擇誰來共進(jìn)晚餐？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2. 你想成名嗎？以什么方式？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3. 打電話之前，你會(huì)排練要說的話嗎？為什么？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4. 對(duì)你來說“完美”的一天的構(gòu)成元素有哪些？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5. 最后一次唱歌給自己聽是什么時(shí)候？給別人呢？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6. 如果你能活到90歲，在生命的最后60年你是愿意保持30歲的身體呢還是30歲的頭腦呢？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7. 對(duì)自己是怎么死的有沒有某種預(yù)感？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8. 說出你和同伴的三個(gè)共同點(diǎn)。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9. 你的生活中，你最感激什么？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10. 如果你能改變，你愿意以何種方式被養(yǎng)大成人？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11. 花點(diǎn)時(shí)間，盡可能細(xì)的告訴同伴自己的故事。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12. 如果你明天醒來你能夠獲得一項(xiàng)品質(zhì)或者能力，想要哪個(gè)？
Set II
第二部分
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13. 若果有一個(gè)水晶球可以告訴你事情的真相，關(guān)于你自己，你的生活，你的未來或者別的任何事情，你想知道什么？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14. 有沒有什么事情你想做很久了？為什么還沒有做？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15. 你一生中最大的成就是什么？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16. 你最看重友誼中的什么品質(zhì)？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17. 你最珍貴的記憶是什么？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18. 你最可怕的記憶是什么？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19. 如果你知道一年內(nèi)你會(huì)突然死去，這回改變你的生活方式嗎？為什么？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20. 友誼對(duì)你意味著什么？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21. 愛和感情在你的生活著扮演什么樣的角色？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22. 輪流分享對(duì)方的好品質(zhì)。一共五個(gè)。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23. 你的家庭親密溫暖嗎？是否覺得你的童年比別人開心？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24. 你覺得自己和媽媽的關(guān)系怎么樣？
Set III
第三部分
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... ”
25. 用“我們”造三個(gè)表示事實(shí)的句子，比如說，“在這個(gè)房間里，我們感覺……”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... ”
26. 完成這個(gè)句子：“我真希望有個(gè)人我能分享……”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27. 如果你想和同伴成為密友，請(qǐng)分享一下他/她最好應(yīng)該知道的事。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28. 告訴同伴你喜歡他們什么；這個(gè)時(shí)候誠實(shí)點(diǎn)，說點(diǎn)兒你不會(huì)告訴那些你剛剛見到的人的話。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29. 和同伴講講你生活中的尷尬時(shí)刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30. 最后一次在人前哭泣是什么時(shí)候？自己哭呢？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31. 告訴同伴，你已經(jīng)喜歡他們什么了。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32. 如果有的話，什么事情是不能拿來開玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33. 如果你今晚就要死了，并且沒有機(jī)會(huì)跟其他任何人交流，你會(huì)后悔沒有告訴別人什么？為什么你還沒有說？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34. 你的房子著火了，你所有的東西都在里面。救了你愛的人和寵物之后，你有最后一次機(jī)會(huì)可以救出任何一樣?xùn)|西。會(huì)選擇什么？為什么？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35. 你家里的哪個(gè)人的死會(huì)讓你最不安？為什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36. 分享一個(gè)私人問題，請(qǐng)教同伴他會(huì)怎么做。并且讓他反饋一下他對(duì)你在所選擇的問題上給人的感覺。
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