如果你不能理解兩性歡愉，就永遠不能理解愛。愛，不是兩性歡愉，而是完全不同的東西。我說過，為了理解性歡愉，我們需要明白其真相。如今對于多數(shù)人，對每個人，性都是個問題。為什么？請仔細聽。因為不能消解，所以你逃避?？嘈猩l(fā)誓禁欲，棄絕性，以此來逃避性。請看看他內(nèi)心發(fā)生著什么吧。性腺本是你完整身體的一部分，而你去否定它，壓抑它，使自己黯無生機，而內(nèi)心的爭斗卻一直涌動不息。

如剛才所說，我們應(yīng)對問題的方法顯然只有兩種：要么壓抑，要么逃避。實際上，壓抑與逃避是一回事。我們擁有全套的逃避網(wǎng)絡(luò)——盤根錯節(jié)，聰明機智，富于情感，籠罩著我們的日?；顒?。逃避的方式形形色色，我們暫且不去探究，但我們的確有逃避性的問題。一定程度上，苦行僧就在逃避性，但他的問題從未化解過。他發(fā)誓愿，壓抑性，但所有問題仍在內(nèi)心翻滾不息。他可能身著簡樸的袈裟，但性已成為他的突出問題，與世俗中人并無不同。你是如何化解這個問題的？

——克里希那穆提《生命書：365觀心日課》（The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti）

Love Is Not Pleasure

Without the understanding of pleasure you will never be able to understand love. Love is not pleasure. Love is something entirely different. And to understand pleasure, as I said, you have to learn about it. Now, for most of us, for every human being, sex is a problem. Why? Listen to this very carefully. Because you are not able to solve it, you run away from it. The sannyasi runs away from it by taking a vow of celibacy, by denying. Please see what happens to such a mind. By denying something that is a part of your whole structure—the glands and so on—by suppressing it, you have made yourself arid, and there is a constant battle going on within yourself.

As we were saying, we have only two ways of meeting any problem, apparently: either suppressing it or running away from it. Suppressing it is really the same thing as running away from it. And we have a whole network of escapes—very intricate, intellectual, emotional—and ordinary everyday activity. There are various forms of escapes into which we will not go for the moment. But we have this problem. The sannyasi escapes from it in one way, but he has not resolved it; he has suppressed it by taking a vow, and the whole problem is boiling in him. He may put on the outward robe of simplicity, but this becomes an extraordinary issue for him too, as it is for the man who lives an ordinary life. How do you solve that problem?

NOVEMBER 22