日期：2021.02.17

【人物學(xué)習(xí)】

DD小侄女：

昨天小侄女DD和小侄子都在，小侄子要大一些。小侄女比較內(nèi)斂和害羞。

兩個人在炕上，拿一個枕頭玩的不亦樂乎。小侄女模仿小侄子，說話做事，哥哥拿個啥，她也要拿個啥。一人分了一個枕頭、枕巾，把枕頭當(dāng)米袋子，互相比較著誰的米多。一會又將枕巾當(dāng)床單鋪好，拿了小玩偶當(dāng)小朋友，哄小朋友睡覺覺。哥哥拿了一個芒果塞在玩偶懷里，小侄女也有樣學(xué)樣的去拿一個放玩偶旁邊。

別看小孩子，看著小哥哥有啥，小侄女也要喊著要啥。沒有的話就開始不和諧起來，必須得有一個一致的才行。

穿著襪子可能會有些滑，她不直接表達(dá)說：媽媽幫我脫襪子，她說的是：媽媽，這個襪子老滑著往下掉。我們說沒有呀，她就一定堅(jiān)持就是不停的往下滑。她媽媽猜到她想脫襪子，就說要脫襪子嘛。她點(diǎn)點(diǎn)頭。才多大的小屁孩，說話都是拐彎抹角的。

一會，爺爺騙著說我去游樂園呢，你們誰去，趕緊下來。哥哥毫無思考就看著爺爺?shù)姆较蛳胍氯?。小侄女給哥哥說：他騙你的，不去的。大家哄然大笑。小女孩果然心思更加細(xì)膩，當(dāng)小男孩還深信不疑的時候，小女孩早已發(fā)現(xiàn)了破綻，淡定從容。

她愿意的時候，像哥哥一樣不怕臟的滾在地板上玩。愛干凈的時候，稍微看到一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)灰，就要拍干凈不然就要換新的衣服。啥都想要到手，沒有的話就開始哼唧，搞著哥哥給她也給一個。啥都喜歡說是我的。自己定的場景還需要大家一起配合才行。多了一些霸道和小公主氣息。

所以你看，才3歲的小孩，小心思就已經(jīng)很多了。

【作品學(xué)習(xí)與讀書】

薩古魯：家庭是一個讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場

Sadhguru:?There are many associations we make to conduct our life process. We make associations of business, nationality, community. But among all these things, family is a fundamental association. You must understand family for what it is, and conduct it for what it is. The problem is we get overwhelmed with emotion and raise it to another place, which it is not. In many ways, my mother never tried to influence us in any way. By not wanting to influence us, she was the biggest influence. What human beings have to offer you, and what you have to offer them should not be trampled upon. But the illusions we create around them must be trampled upon, otherwise we will miss the beauty of people coming together and sharing things.

Sadhguru（薩古魯）：我們建立了很多組織來構(gòu)建我們的生活。我們建立商業(yè)、國家和社區(qū)。但其中，家庭是最基本的組織。你必須理解家庭是什么，并以此來引導(dǎo)家庭。問題是我們被情緒淹沒了，并把家庭引向了另一個地方。在很多層面上，我的母親從不試圖以任何方式影響我們。借由這樣的“無為”，她做出了最大的“有為”，她給我們帶來了最大的影響。那些人類可以提供給你的，以及你可以奉獻(xiàn)給人類的，不應(yīng)當(dāng)被踐踏。但是，那些我們在人們周圍所制造的幻相必須被摧毀，否則，我們將錯過人們聚在一起相互分享的美好。

In many ways, family means “the closest association.” That means you have to constantly step on each other’s feet. When you constantly step on each other’s feet because you are sharing the same space, it brings a certain level of understanding and maturity. Suppose you have a Facebook family. You can have a family of 10,000 without any problems because you don’t have to share anything with anybody except pictures. It does not challenge you. Suppose you do not like someone on Facebook, you can just click and they are gone! That is not the case with family. One moment, they do something and you hate them, but you can’t click them away.

在許多層面上，家庭意味著“最親密的組織”，這意味著大家難免會不斷踩到彼此的腳。當(dāng)你因?yàn)榉窒硗粋€空間而時不時踩到別人的腳時，這會帶來一定程度的理解和成熟。假設(shè)你在臉書（Facebook）上成立一個家庭，即使擁有一個一萬人的家庭也不會有任何問題，因?yàn)槌朔窒碚掌?，你不必與他人分享任何東西。它不會挑戰(zhàn)到你。假設(shè)你不喜歡臉書上的某個人，你只要一點(diǎn)鼠標(biāo)，他們就不見了！但家人不是這樣的。某個時刻，他們做了某些事，你怨恨他們，可你沒法一點(diǎn)鼠標(biāo)就讓他們離開。

Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes.

家庭是讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場。

When people stay together, either by bondage or choice, they mature because maturity happens when you rise above your likes and dislikes. There are so many things that you do not like about your parents, children, husband, wife. Initially, it irritates the hell out of you, but after some time, you rise beyond it. If you rise beyond it by giving in and saying, “The hell with it!” that will not help. But if you rise beyond it consciously, you have turned spiritual. Without intention, you have become spiritual. That is the most beautiful way to do it.

當(dāng)人們住在一起時，無論是出于束縛或是選擇，他們都會變得成熟。當(dāng)你超越好惡時，你就成熟了。在你的父母、孩子、丈夫、妻子身上，有那么多你不喜歡的地方。一開始，它讓你抓狂，但過了一段時間之后，你就會超越這一切。如果你放棄了，說：“讓它見鬼去吧！”，這么做不會有任何幫助。但如果你有意識去超越，你就變得靈性了。不知不覺地，你就變得靈性。這是最美妙的方式。

Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes. But because some people cannot get along with their families, they want to move into the ashram. I tell them, “If you find living with three people too challenging, you are not fit to live with 1,000 people!” If you are doing great with your family and you want to move into the ashram, that is great, you have passed the test. But if you cannot live with a few people, how are you going to live with 1,000 people?

家庭是一個讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場。但因?yàn)橛行┤藷o法和家人和睦共處，他們想搬到靜修所去住。我告訴他們：“如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)和3個人一起住都很有挑戰(zhàn)的話，那你就不適合與1000個人住在一起！”如果你和你的家人相處得很好而你想搬到靜修所，那很棒，你已經(jīng)通過了測試。但如果你不能和幾個人住在一起，你又怎能和1000個人住在一起？

Above all, family is very important to fulfill your physical, psychological, financial and social needs. You formed an association that you call “family” to fulfill?your?needs. Do not forget this. Right now, you may feel like a sacrificial goat in the family. But everything that you do within the scope of the family need not work out just because you think they are?your?people — that is just your thought. They are just people. If you give yourself totally to them and make their lives beautiful, they will yield to certain things.

家庭對于滿足你的身體、心理、財(cái)務(wù)及社會的需求是非常重要的。你創(chuàng)建了那個你稱之為“家庭”的組織，是為了滿足你的需求。別忘了這點(diǎn)。現(xiàn)在，你可能感覺在家庭中像一個犧牲品，但只是因?yàn)槟阏J(rèn)為他們是你的人，這并不能意味著你在家庭范圍內(nèi)所做的一切都會管用——這只是你的想法。他們只是人而已，如果你將自己完全給予他們，讓他們的生命變得美麗，他們會開花結(jié)果的。

The beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion.

母性之美并非在于繁衍后代，母性之美在于包容。

More horrible things happen within the family in terms of anger, hatred and struggles than what happens between two enemy nations. I am not saying this is right or wrong. But you made your association for your needs to be fulfilled, and now you are expecting all the life that evolved out of this family to happen the way you want it to. This does not mean all of them must turn out the way you want them to be – they will not. Just remain in gratitude and do the best you can. “But they are suffering. I don’t want them to suffer.” Yes, we don’t want them to suffer. Not just because they are your family, we don’t want anybody to suffer. It is time that you enlarge your desire to all. “I don’t want anybody to suffer.”

家庭中發(fā)生的由憤怒、仇恨和斗爭所引起的悲慘事件要超過兩個敵國之間所發(fā)生的。我不是說這是對或錯。但你組建了這個組織來滿足你的需求，現(xiàn)在你期望這個家庭的生活完全要按照你想要的樣子來發(fā)展。這并不意味著所有家庭成員都要變成你所期待的樣子——他們不會。你僅僅需要保持感恩，并盡可能做到最好?！暗麄冊谑芸?，我不想讓他們受苦?！笔堑?，我們不想讓他們受苦，不僅僅因?yàn)樗麄兪悄愕募胰恕覀儾幌Ｍ魏稳耸芸?。是時候?qū)⒛愕目释麛U(kuò)大至所有人：“我不想任何人受苦?！?/p>

During the 20s, 40s and even 60s, family meant “crime” in America — the mafia. Even today, that is what it means. I want you to understand this, what you see as evil on this planet is not coming from some devilish source. It is human beings who think, “Only these three people belong to me. The rest don’t belong to me.” It is what they perceive as wellbeing for these three people that causes all the rubbish to everything else. It may be a family, community, race, religion or nation. It is this limited perspective of life that causes all the evil on this planet, and it starts with the family. Please expand your idea of family.

20、40甚至60年代，在美國，家庭意味著“犯罪”——黑手黨。甚至是今天，家庭也是這個含義。我想讓你們理解這一點(diǎn)，你在這個世界上看到的邪惡，并非來自什么邪惡的人，而是來自于人類的思考：“只有這三個人屬于我，其余的人都不屬于我?！闭撬麄冋J(rèn)為會給這三個人帶來福祉的東西，造成了對其它一切的傷害。不管你是局限于一個家庭、社區(qū)、種族、宗教或是國家，正是這種對生命有限的視角造成了地球上所有的邪惡，而這最初始于家庭。所以請擴(kuò)展你關(guān)于家庭的定義。

Your children may have taken only one cell from you. But how much have you taken from this planet? How many cells? The whole of it, even if you cannot think beyond your biology! The planet and everything that comes out of it is more of a family than somebody who just took one cell from you. You may not like this at all, especially just after Mother’s Day, but the beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion. It is not because your mother reproduced you, bore you and let you out. That is not why a mother is precious. She is precious because, in many ways, she saw you as a part of herself. It is not the biology; it is the inclusiveness. Suppose your mother bore you and never bothered about you, she would be your worst enemy. It is not the biological process that is significant here. It is the willingness to include another life as part of yourself. It is that beauty we are trying to celebrate with Mother’s Day.

你的孩子從你身上拿了一個細(xì)胞，但你從這個地球拿走了多少？多少細(xì)胞？你的每一個細(xì)胞都是從這顆星球上拿走的。這顆星球和這里所有的一切，都比只是從你這里拿了一個細(xì)胞的人更是家人。你可能不愿意承認(rèn)這一點(diǎn)，尤其現(xiàn)在剛過完母親節(jié)，但我想說，母性之美不在于繁衍后代。母性之美在于包容。母親十月懷胎孕育了你，把你生出來，這并不是母親可貴的原因。她可貴是因?yàn)樵诤芏鄬用?，她把你看作是她自己的一部分。所以這不在于生物性，而在于包容性。假如你的母親生下了你，但從不管你，她可能就成了你最壞的敵人。關(guān)鍵不在于生物的繁衍，而在于將另一個生命包容為自己的一部分的意愿。在母親節(jié)我們想要慶祝的，正是那種美。

【思考】

學(xué)習(xí)：

學(xué)習(xí)是終身的事情，也是跟上時代潮流的唯一方式。不然，當(dāng)出現(xiàn)狀況的時候，會慌了陣腳，不知所措。

昨天，男朋友的爸爸丟了證件和銀行卡。男盆友的媽媽氣的不行，一頓數(shù)落。而他爸爸，則是開車出去找。

男朋友給我說，我第一想到的就是趕快掛失。

可大過年的，怎么掛失呢？長輩們想到的是去銀行公安局現(xiàn)場掛失。但現(xiàn)在手機(jī)app其實(shí)可以直接掛失的。

但由于他們壓根不會用銀行的手機(jī)app，更別提在手機(jī)上掛失了。著急忙慌的打轉(zhuǎn)轉(zhuǎn)，也解決不了問題。

男朋友還在值班，也不在跟前，沒法直接給操作。于是我找到了掛失操作發(fā)過去鏈接。后來，也不知道有米有操作完成。但至少，有了解決問題的方式。及時掛失，以將損失降到最小。避免帶來更多不必要的麻煩。

所以你看，不跟著學(xué)習(xí)使用新的技術(shù)，當(dāng)真遇到的時候，不會使用就會走很多的彎路，甚至一些浪費(fèi)時間的操作。及時學(xué)習(xí)，就能夠一下找到解決方法，不再做無用功。這也提醒了年輕人，時刻教會父母用一些最新必要的app以及新的技能，有助于必要的時候減輕自己的負(fù)擔(dān)。

還有就是，銀行卡和身份證，千萬別戴在一起。一起丟了，好人還好，有的本來想返還，可看到兩個一起在，不免就給對方提供了想做壞事的可能。分開放，或者一定需要拿的時候，一定拿好，別三心二意。

學(xué)習(xí)，是一直需要做的事情。也因?yàn)閷W(xué)習(xí)，掌握不斷變化的技能，才能不被雜事所纏身。

【每日一句】

世事無常

【夢境】

沒有

【每日反思與改過】

有時候，再堅(jiān)持一下，說不定就有不一樣的收獲。

出現(xiàn)狀況的時候，一定先冷靜，降低損失。切不可著急忙慌，或者互相埋怨。解決問題是第一首要要考慮的事情。